birdlover99
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On Friday, I had to work morning shift and I left without saying good morning to my Pewe. I don't normally do that but If I say good morning before I leave for work Pewe gets really loud and wants to get out of his cage. He ends up waking my fiance up and he gets pretty upset being woken up that early. When my Fiance got up an hour later, Pewe was out and running around the bird table, which is normal behavior. Fiance fed, watered and locked Pewe back into his cage then he,too, left for work.
After I got out of work, I went to the future-in-laws to pick my kids up. Like normal, I stayed about an hour to visit and get kids ready. We then went home. Like I would normally, I called a hello to Pewe expecting a chirp back. I didn't get it. I wasn't too concerned yet, just figuring that he was sleeping so I went to use the restroom. There he was. In the toilet. Dead. I was heartbroken. He managed to pry his cage door open and escape. His doors are being held shut with the giant black office clips. He still managed to get out. He has been out before when we forget to clip the doors but he always stays on his little bird table. Today he didn't. I don't understand why he was in our bathroom, he has always avoided that room for some unknown reason but today he went right in. It was awful seeing him floating in my toilet. I feel awful and guilty. I don't know how long he was in there for but maybe if I had said good morning to him things might have been different. Maybe if I hadn't had stayed at the in laws so long, he might have been alive. Problem is is that I will never know.
I cried for 3 days off and on. I bought him a grave marker. My fiance made him a little burial box. I bought a floating locket that I now keep some of his feathers in.
My kids have been asking for another bird for a while so I decided to go out and get them one. In the area I live in Lovebirds are EXTREMELY hard to find. I ended up driving 2 hours away to get one. My kids are ecstatic they love their new lil birdy and have even named him Tweety. An awful name yes, but its what my 4 year old wanted. My Fiance is a little upset but he never wanted the first bird so I knew he wouldn't want the second one so that didn't faze me. What upsets me is that he now is publicly stating that I didn't really love my Pewe and that I didn't care that he died and that "At least your over your bird already".
How do I make him understand that I am not over the death of Pewe. I mean I still sleep with the blanket that use to cover Pewe's cage. I have his necklace on all the time. I am always going back to look at the pictures I have of Pewe. I just don't want to limit the kids on having a pet because I miss mine. Do you believe it was too soon for me to have gotten a new bird?
After I got out of work, I went to the future-in-laws to pick my kids up. Like normal, I stayed about an hour to visit and get kids ready. We then went home. Like I would normally, I called a hello to Pewe expecting a chirp back. I didn't get it. I wasn't too concerned yet, just figuring that he was sleeping so I went to use the restroom. There he was. In the toilet. Dead. I was heartbroken. He managed to pry his cage door open and escape. His doors are being held shut with the giant black office clips. He still managed to get out. He has been out before when we forget to clip the doors but he always stays on his little bird table. Today he didn't. I don't understand why he was in our bathroom, he has always avoided that room for some unknown reason but today he went right in. It was awful seeing him floating in my toilet. I feel awful and guilty. I don't know how long he was in there for but maybe if I had said good morning to him things might have been different. Maybe if I hadn't had stayed at the in laws so long, he might have been alive. Problem is is that I will never know.
I cried for 3 days off and on. I bought him a grave marker. My fiance made him a little burial box. I bought a floating locket that I now keep some of his feathers in.
My kids have been asking for another bird for a while so I decided to go out and get them one. In the area I live in Lovebirds are EXTREMELY hard to find. I ended up driving 2 hours away to get one. My kids are ecstatic they love their new lil birdy and have even named him Tweety. An awful name yes, but its what my 4 year old wanted. My Fiance is a little upset but he never wanted the first bird so I knew he wouldn't want the second one so that didn't faze me. What upsets me is that he now is publicly stating that I didn't really love my Pewe and that I didn't care that he died and that "At least your over your bird already".
How do I make him understand that I am not over the death of Pewe. I mean I still sleep with the blanket that use to cover Pewe's cage. I have his necklace on all the time. I am always going back to look at the pictures I have of Pewe. I just don't want to limit the kids on having a pet because I miss mine. Do you believe it was too soon for me to have gotten a new bird?