Great discussion everyone! I love getting more info about it. I work with and rehab rescued GSDs, and I think that real training (ie- teaching the animal behaviors is a way that they WANT to do them) is similar across species in the basics. ABCs indeed.
I'd like to rephrase my earlier comment. I suppose I never really 'force' anything on Jasper, even though I sometimes make him do things that he'd rather not. It might mean going and getting a treat or a perch if he's reluctant or excited though. Then he'll step up, grudgingly, but he will. If he doesn't (and it only happened a few times when he first came home) I leave the room and let him sit by himself for a few minutes. So far, when I come back with that treat again, he's more than happy to cooperate for the treat and the attention after being temporarily 'abandoned.'
Not to go all nature's best on anyone, but after watching my budgieflock for so long, it seems like birdy 'punishment' is pretty much saying 'fine, I'm taking my ball and going elsewhere.' Jasper seems to understand it fairly well anyway. Granted, he's not having a blast chewing a hole in the ceiling either.
If he were doing something dangerous like that I'd probably progress to either toweling him (which he's comfortable with) or forcing him off-balance and onto a perch. I try to prevent those situations though, and if it were something like an electric cord, I'd be willing to take a bite to get him off it.
Now 'taking my ball and playing elsewhere' has resulted in him getting dumped off my lap and onto the floor a couple of times when he decided to pinch me too hard, resulting in me getting up and leaving him for a few minutes. I have trouble feeling bad about that though. Should I? Is there a better way? I warn him to 'be gentle' when he's getting too rough for me, and 9/10 times that's all it takes, but he's a Zon and gets a little carried away sometimes, which isn't really a problem since his 'carried away' is still gentle enough not to bruise/bleed.