Personal dilemma...

[Brittany0208]

Maybe I'm a bit naive for wanting to believe it'll be different this time, that I want to give her the benefit of the doubt

 

[MommyBird]

Given what you have said, why are you making yourself anxious?
I bet what would happen is that you end up doing MORE than your share of work for short money.
Then she will complain about you daily to your grandmother and you'll have to hear about that.
You know this is how she operates.
Money is always nice but not at the cost of your sanity.
Plus since the position is off the books there could be tax problems and also you could not even use it as a reference for another job.

 

[Brittany0208]

Given what you have said, why are you making yourself anxious?
I bet what would happen is that you end up doing MORE than your share of work for short money.
Then she will complain about you daily to your grandmother and you'll have to hear about that.
You know this is how she operates.
Money is always nice but not at the cost of your sanity.
Plus since the position is off the books there could be tax problems and also you could not even use it as a reference for another job.

Honestly, i don't know. I guess i got caught up in the excitement of extra money that it didn't sink it until i was asleep, then i started questioning everything and if it was worth it

 

[MommyBird]

so now, you just need to say "thanks, but no thanks" take a deep breath, and go have a lovely day!

 

[Brittany0208]

so now, you just need to say "thanks, but no thanks" take a deep breath, and go have a lovely day!

You're absolutely right. I already feel better about not worrying about it

 

[Mama Kirs]

You really did answer your questions yourself . It's a big NO!!!!

 

[Brittany0208]

You really did answer your questions yourself . It's a big NO!!!!

I just wanted a neutral perspective in case I was missing something.

 

[MommyBird]

and do be ready to hear from her via your grandmother about what a dolt you are to not "help her out".
That'll go for about a week, but just think how that reinforces your decision. If you worked for her it would go on forever.
Tell your grandmother that too.

 

[Brittany0208]

and do be ready to hear from her via your grandmother about what a dolt you are to not "help her out".
That'll go for about a week, but just think how that reinforces your decision. If you worked for her it would go on forever.
Tell your grandmother that too.

Tell me about it. She was all smiles when I told her I'll consider it. I wonder what she'll have to say when I tell her I've changed my mind.

 

[tka]

Tell me about it. She was all smiles when I told her I'll consider it. I wonder what she'll have to say when I tell her I've changed my mind.

I suspect her response will only confirm your decision not to work for her.

 

[Imogena]

Given what you have said, why are you making yourself anxious?
I bet what would happen is that you end up doing MORE than your share of work for short money.
Then she will complain about you daily to your grandmother and you'll have to hear about that.
You know this is how she operates.
Money is always nice but not at the cost of your sanity.
Plus since the position is off the books there could be tax problems and also you could not even use it as a reference for another job.

You are reading my mind. I wanted to say exactly what you said.

 

[Hankmacaw]

Sometimes, rarely, working for an individual (or an organization) by computer can work out well, but not often. First, is any up front money required from you - a definite no no. Would you have to provide supplies - a no no. Is the work or her business illegal - another no no. Why would she ask you to sign a contract for casual work? If the contract is written by her it probably is very much in her favor. I'd say no contract unless reviewed by a lawyer. Do you understand exactly what you would be expected to produce and time constraints on production? Would she provide you with a 1099 for what she has paid you? Will she pay you an up front retainer?

It can be a risk - nothing is simple any longer.

 

[Brittany0208]

Sometimes, rarely, working for an individual (or an organization) by computer can work out well, but not often. First, is any up front money required from you - a definite no no. Would you have to provide supplies - a no no. Is the work or her business illegal - another no no. Why would she ask you to sign a contract for casual work? If the contract is written by her it probably is very much in her favor. I'd say no contract unless reviewed by a lawyer. Do you understand exactly what you would be expected to produce and time constraints on production? Would she provide you with a 1099 for what she has paid you? Will she pay you an up front retainer?

It can be a risk - nothing is simple any longer.

I have an idea of what I'm supposed to be doing but she's supposed to train me via video chat tomorrow if I say yes. She didn't mention a 1099 or a retainer fee, she just said I would make $10 an hour and I would keep a timesheet

 

[Hankmacaw]

Well, don't sign the contract - although I'm doubtful that she would try to enforce it. Is her business legal?

 

[Mama Kirs]

I just wanted a neutral perspective in case I was missing something.

You didn't miss anything...go with your gut feeling!

 

[Lady Jane]

I would ask how many other people she has offered this opportunity to, that is if you feel she is honest. You are family so why do you have to sign anything? A week trial period sounds good to me. You don't want to get yourself into anything you cannot step out of gracefully so as not to light old fires again. Good luck

 

[rocky'smom]

JMPO (just my personal opinion) never work for family.

 

[faislaq]

Yup, like others have said she'd definitely use your grandmother against you to guilt you into not quitting no matter how bad things get. And since you and your grandmother live together you wouldn't get a moment of peace.

If she was a bad employer for your mom and your mother and sister without having a violent history with them I'd imagine she'd be at least as terrible to you if not more.

You want to give her the benefit of the doubt because you are a nice person. She is not and projecting yourself onto her won't change how she is. As my dad would remind me, "pearls before swine."

 

[Brittany0208]

I just sent her a text declining her offer, and surprisingly, she took it well but I'm sure our grandmother is going to get an ear full. I feel so relieved! Thank you guys so much!

 

[Brittany0208]

Well, don't sign the contract - although I'm doubtful that she would try to enforce it. Is her business legal?

Yes it's legal. She's an editor for a blogger, I believe