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I started school again on Monday. I had slowly been preparing KerBear for class like we used to prepare our foster dogs. I would leave the house for increasingly longer periods of time and I would always bring back fruit from the fruit bar at the grocery store. She responded very positively to that method. She was very happy to see me and seemed excited and looked forward to my going. She knew something good was going to happen when I got home and my hubby was home while I am gone. So she isn't alone.
The only thing that I can think was different about Monday was that I left in a hurry so my energy was a bit different and I had a full book bag. She contact called to me for HOURS according to my husband. Every dog in the neighborhood was barking. There was a knock on the door about 3 hours into her contact call fit (hubby had in earplugs and a loud stereo by this point). One of our neighbors from across the street just had heart bypass surgery and their caretaker came to knock on the door to complain because their patient couldn't sleep. We needed to shut up our animal because her patient couldn't take the stress. They live across the street 3 houses down and could hear her above their TV so she must have been loud.
I heard nothing. I came home 7 hours later and as I was driving down the street it was peaceful and quiet. I walked in the door and KerBear cried out "HELLOOOO" and I told her hello and said I missed her and gave her the fruit. She played quietly all evening. The same thing happened yesterday. I didn't leave in a hurry yesterday. I gave her new toys, I stuffed in foraging toys with her favorite brazil nuts, and I calmly and slowly walked out the door. I called out that I would see her later.
She screamed and tore her whole cage apart. She literally cracked or dismantled acrylic, bullet proof, supposedly macaw proof toys, screamed and beat around what she couldn't destroy (mostly the hanging metal chains the toys were attached. She removed all the nuts and bolts and they were everywhere. I found it a bit hard to believe that she would have been as bad as my husband claimed and so perfect with me. The evidence of her cage when I came home proved otherwise. The dog starts looking anxiously for me at the door as the same time KerBear shuts up so my husband thinks they hear the car.
I begged and cried family problems and transfered all of my classes to Tuesday and Thursday except one class I have to take at night Fri. So now I am gone from 8am to 10pm tue/thur but home every other day. My night class she will just go to bed half an hour earlier. I am going to start making her go to bed 10 minutes earlier tonight and then 20 tomorrow, and then 30 Fri.
I don't know what else to do everyone. She won't play with or acknowledge my husband. She is fixated on calling for me for hours and then she just alternately calls and trashes her cage and toys. When I get home she is perfect as can be. I left today like I was going to class and came back after two hours. I didn't give her anything special and I just told her good bye. I waited up the street to see if she would start screaming but she never did. So I drove off to the library, then went to the store and got her some fruit and got dryer sheets and came home.
I tried all the distractions it listed in "The Well Behaved Parrot" and they didn't work.
I apologize for the long post. Can anyone shed some light on this or help me?
The only thing that I can think was different about Monday was that I left in a hurry so my energy was a bit different and I had a full book bag. She contact called to me for HOURS according to my husband. Every dog in the neighborhood was barking. There was a knock on the door about 3 hours into her contact call fit (hubby had in earplugs and a loud stereo by this point). One of our neighbors from across the street just had heart bypass surgery and their caretaker came to knock on the door to complain because their patient couldn't sleep. We needed to shut up our animal because her patient couldn't take the stress. They live across the street 3 houses down and could hear her above their TV so she must have been loud.
I heard nothing. I came home 7 hours later and as I was driving down the street it was peaceful and quiet. I walked in the door and KerBear cried out "HELLOOOO" and I told her hello and said I missed her and gave her the fruit. She played quietly all evening. The same thing happened yesterday. I didn't leave in a hurry yesterday. I gave her new toys, I stuffed in foraging toys with her favorite brazil nuts, and I calmly and slowly walked out the door. I called out that I would see her later.
She screamed and tore her whole cage apart. She literally cracked or dismantled acrylic, bullet proof, supposedly macaw proof toys, screamed and beat around what she couldn't destroy (mostly the hanging metal chains the toys were attached. She removed all the nuts and bolts and they were everywhere. I found it a bit hard to believe that she would have been as bad as my husband claimed and so perfect with me. The evidence of her cage when I came home proved otherwise. The dog starts looking anxiously for me at the door as the same time KerBear shuts up so my husband thinks they hear the car.
I begged and cried family problems and transfered all of my classes to Tuesday and Thursday except one class I have to take at night Fri. So now I am gone from 8am to 10pm tue/thur but home every other day. My night class she will just go to bed half an hour earlier. I am going to start making her go to bed 10 minutes earlier tonight and then 20 tomorrow, and then 30 Fri.
I don't know what else to do everyone. She won't play with or acknowledge my husband. She is fixated on calling for me for hours and then she just alternately calls and trashes her cage and toys. When I get home she is perfect as can be. I left today like I was going to class and came back after two hours. I didn't give her anything special and I just told her good bye. I waited up the street to see if she would start screaming but she never did. So I drove off to the library, then went to the store and got her some fruit and got dryer sheets and came home.
I tried all the distractions it listed in "The Well Behaved Parrot" and they didn't work.
I apologize for the long post. Can anyone shed some light on this or help me?
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