Thank you! He is my love.
@JapanBirdLover Here's what I think of your list.
Throw it out the window.
I am not being mean -- I get trying to be methodical, I really do. That's not how it works for parrots.
I say that because, we cannot outline for our birds what they're going to do or when they will do it. We can give them the tools -- and they choose whether to use them or not. Ernie doesn't ever do anything he doesn't want to. If I ask him to step up, he postures and pretends to attack me (that means no). My other pi doesn't step up. She flies to me when SHE wants to. My blue parrotlet boy is afraid of hands, he will never step up I guess but he hangs off my shirt, sits on my head, and finally (after 3 years of work) will take food from my fingers.
If you focus on what the bird wants and not your outline, things fall into place naturally. For now, walk to the place where the bird begins to show fear/nervousness. Then take a step back. Sit or stand or work there. Next time, do the same.
In between, walk by, nonchalantly drop a treat in his dish, and keep walking.
Be sure you aren't staring at him. When you read to him, just read and look at some other spot. Let *him* look at you. Let him learn your body language and mannerisms. And that you are the Giver of Yummy Treats. In the meantime, you will learn more about him and his body language and his acceptance level. And his personality.
You're going to have a GREAT relationship. Don't rush it.
@JLcribber can say it better.