I had a gold fish in a bowl when I was about 6. I carried it outside to change the water as I did every week. Asked parents to carry back in - I think it was turning very cold and the bowl was wet, and I wanted to get it inside but couldn't carry it. They just raised their eyebrows at me, in other words my responsibility. No one brought it in and the fish froze. Very upsetting.This is why I don't think a child is capable of taking full responsibility for a bird.
That is the only right/moral thing to do.Perhaps that means that they do need to have a difficult conversation with their child about the cost of good vet care, and that it would be unfair to keep an animal if they cannot take care of its medical needs.
Oh God! I'm so sorry. This made me tear up.They just raised their eyebrows at me, in other words my responsibility. No one brought it in and the fish froze. Very upsetting.
I remember that. I suppose the outcome was (sort of?) happy in the end. That was the most horrible day I have had here. I was in and out of my school work at the time, but I was always there.The one that got me recently was the poor kid who had an obviously very sick budgie and whose parent refused to even spend money to allow the bird a peaceful, quick death. It was heartbreaking. The kid was panicking and incredibly upset at seeing their beloved friend die slowly, and couldn't do a thing about it.
I think this is correct, but sometimes needs to be the other way around. The kids telling the parents about the responsibility they have... to understand that the child will be desperate to get to a vet and the last thing they want is to be held up by a parent that can't be bothered because they could get another animal the next day for a tenner.Perhaps that means that they do need to have a difficult conversation with their child about the cost of good vet care, and that it would be unfair to keep an animal if they cannot take care of its medical needs.
I agree. And they wonder why in the world I have depression.Oh God! I'm so sorry. This made me tear up.
No child should have to suffer something like this!
Yes. Thanks to @Lady Jane for always pushing us to educate ourselves.This thread is reminder of some sad moments. I hope people viewing this in the future benefit from it.
It does. I had parents like this. I dare say they were even a step worse. I rarely asked for my own pet, Petrie was the exception, in addition to my grandfather surprising me with my first aquarium. Most of the time my father would just bring critters home with NO intention of providing them any care at all. They were an impulse and he gave all the responsibility to me. I started working at 14 to support the animals. My father was very abusive and lacked empathy. I am sure he somehow enjoyed how much distress it caused me. He used my love for all things living as a form of abuse. I went through a lot find My self confidence and what I do have is fragile at best.I´m sure this trauma must live with them for a long time.
(Sorry for the super negative post!)