This is so heartbreaking, Patricia. I know your hear is just torn in two knowing what you have to do but now knowing how without hurting someone.
Last night, after I read that you were going to see Gizmo, I started thinking about how it would be for both the wife and Gizmo. Sometimes, well, most of the time, when an abused person takes a stand for something, the abuser will squash any form of power that the person may be exerting to do so. In this case, even though the husband wants the bird gone, when the wife actually makes steps for that, sometimes the abuser will see that as a form of empowerment for the wife and then squash it with even more physical or emotional abuse. It also got me thinking as to what the husband could do when she comes to visit Gizmo… I fear for her safety.
It’s really reassuring to know that for the month that Gizmo was out of that environment he chose not to pluck his feathers. He must be a real little fighter. It would be so easy for him to continue the behavior just on the basis that he doesn’t know when the “bad man” will be back.
I would keep pressing the issue based on the improvements that Gizmo will have in his life vs. staying. He could recover; he could be a confident, happy bird. He wouldn’t have to live in fear and at risk of injury at any turn. I wish I had more advice to give and could be there to help…