I don't know this trainer, but I know or know of a lot of the trainers on her seminars list and she is a member of Truly Dog Friendly (which I am also a member of), in which you have to be committed to +R, you have to be sponsored by another trainer that you know that is already a member, etc. I feel much more comfortable about this trainer. LIMA means Least Invasive Minimally Aversive. I would go for it. Giving yourself some time to process this is a good idea. In the meantime, don't have Jake go out for walks right now, don't let the dog walker take him out. Let him decompress, let yourself decompress. I wish I lived up the street so I could come over and we could have a glass of wine and talk about what I went through with Bill and Jenny and how it is difficult at first to take it all in, but it gets easier and you will get through it. Sometimes we have expectations of what we want/hope our dogs will be and we do our best to help them become that, but they are someone else and that is okay too. There is a reason for that.
We have a 1 1/2 year old Dachshund pup. I had his great great grandmother, she died last year at 14 years old. She was one of the best dogs I have ever known. His father is one of my all time favorite dogs, top ranking field dog, I showed his mother. I picked this puppy when he was born. When we did the litter evaluation at 7 weeks, I knew that structurally he was not as good as his brother Slick, but still, I picked him for my husbands new field dog and my nose work dog. He started showing signs of being reactive at about 5 months old. He is reactive to other dogs and people. It wasn't what we were hoping for in terms of temperament. His brother went to a home and was returned a couple of months later. I finished his championship for his owner, my good friend very quickly with two back to back 5 point majors (a big deal
. So, why did I pick this puppy instead of other one that I knew was the more structurally correct show dog and who at times I thought would have more intensity for the field? I just felt a connection with him and I chose him. Now, I realize that had this puppy gone to the family for those few months he would have been really bad right now. He is with us because he belongs here. He already has his ORT in K9 Nose Work and he went to a nose work fun trial last weekend and rocked it out after not searching for odor for two months. He will go to the first field trials of the season this weekend. I guess I am just telling you all this because we ended up with the dog that should be here. Jake will teach you to understand dogs and behavior in a way you never thought you would and it will suck sometimes but you will end up being grateful to him. And, it will all pay off.
Thanks everyone. I'm taking a night off from both my husband and Jake. I need a breather. I am very upset and emotional tonight, but in no way am I giving up on Jake. My husband will have the choice to participate, but if he continues the way he is he will be removed from the decision making. He'll get over it ... I know him well enough to know that after he has time to think about it he'll come and apologize and be more open to talking about this. I just wish he'd do that from the beginning and save us both the stress. Right now I'm not worried about his feelings. I'm concerned about Jake and dealing with the behavioural issues.
I got a response from another trainer. Here is a link to her site:
Dog Training in Guelph – Scratch and Sniff Canine Services
She forwarded a 10-page questionnaire that she likes to have filled out before the initial assessment. She talks about using positive reinforcement and the most effective and least invasive methods. Makes me feel a little bit better. I will work on filling out her questionnaire over the weekend and hopefully get a chance to talk with her.