Hello all!
New here (though I've been a lurker for a while!).
About me, I love birds and come from a long line of bird lovers. It started with my Great Grandma (moms side) who had a pet chicken. They adored each other. When she died, they found her beloved chicken, it died the day she was buried.
When I was born my Nonno (dads father) wanted to name me Lina..after his mom.my dad hated the name and refused (a no no for us) and my grandfather stopped talking to him, even though he lived with us. My mom bought him a budgie (he too was a bird lover) and he named it Lina. They were bffs until little Lina died.
At I think around 9 we got a Lilac Crowned amazon. It was love at first sight. He adored me and I adored him. My mom and him.. not so much. I had him up until my bf. Everyone knew about my bird. He was the first love of my life. My parents didn't approve of my bf, and kicked me out. I told them I would be back for my bird on Monday... I went back, and my mom sold him that weekend. I was beyond devastated. I looked for him and after a year tracked him down.. the new owner (the 2nd.. as the first didn't last long with him) said he "bonded" with her 10 year old daughter. She was also trying to breed him.. and refused. I was 30 and had him for over 20 odd years. I was devastated all over again.
Missing my bird, I quickly found another Red Headed Amazon. He was a rehome that wasn't working out. Her African Greys hated him. I took him in an instant. He was amazing the first 6 months when things started to turn.. he bonded with my husband. He did begin to attack me.. I got a bird behaviorist. Talked to the avian vet. It got to where I couldn't even change his bedding without almost getting my eye taken out. He screamed all day long until my husband came home.. still worked on him though now I had a 10 month old and another one on the way. I wasnt giving up on him. Then he stopped eating when my husband went away. My husband went away at least 2 weeks of the months. It was becoming a problem. By year 4 the avian vet suggest we try to rehome him.. we got him overweight and he had begun to lose, a lot. There was no underlying conditions.. he missed the hubs and with 2 small kids, and his aggression.. she was worried. I was heart broken all over again.
So my kids are older now. A 6 and 7 year old.. active, boys. We have an Australian Shepherd, love her.. but it isnt the same. I am a stay at home mom.. and I really miss having a companion. People don't get it, but the love from a bird, (as unstable as it is at times lol) is very different from the love of a dog.
But I am scared of losing my heart again. I want another Amazon. There is no other bird like them. They are LOUD, they are.. well.. moody, but they are hilarious. My kids know not to stick fingers in, but my little guy LOVES birds and I know would want to engage and help care for one.. my lilac crowned loved kids, the louder the better.. but I don't know how my kids would take a bird that may not take to them. So I am wondering if now is the time for another Amazon, or start with another feather friend.. and one day when the stars align, maybe then adopt a rehomed Amazon?
I have been around my aunts cockatoo (that pluked until it almost died as it was bonded to my uncle who worked late.. it hated everyone else) I dont love them, and don't want one. The self mutation really turned me off.
I have known many African greys.. I may be wrong, I find them very skittish and not good with fast moving, loud little ones.. at all. They seem a little sensitive, and not... "silly " like an amazon.
So I was thinking.. should I get a cockatiel? I know, it is supposedly a "starter" bird.. but maybe thats for a good reason. I know it won't be as funny as an amazon, but they seem more.. "stable" or not as "moody" which may be a great addition with the boys.
It is such a hard decision. When we got our dog, I actually had another one picked (a beautiful merle) and they spotted her and fell. She is a wonderful, sweet dog.. but they have zero interest in her. Well my oldest runs around with her.. but honestly, she is my husbands baby. So I keep struggling.. because all birds are a HUGE commitment, and live a really long time.. so I am juggling if I should go with my first love (an amazon) or go with something new but a better "family fit" until the kids are older and we can add. I did see a sweet cockatiel that is a total sweetie pie.. but I am torn. So torn.
Any help, or ideas would be soooo greatly appreciated.
New here (though I've been a lurker for a while!).
About me, I love birds and come from a long line of bird lovers. It started with my Great Grandma (moms side) who had a pet chicken. They adored each other. When she died, they found her beloved chicken, it died the day she was buried.
When I was born my Nonno (dads father) wanted to name me Lina..after his mom.my dad hated the name and refused (a no no for us) and my grandfather stopped talking to him, even though he lived with us. My mom bought him a budgie (he too was a bird lover) and he named it Lina. They were bffs until little Lina died.
At I think around 9 we got a Lilac Crowned amazon. It was love at first sight. He adored me and I adored him. My mom and him.. not so much. I had him up until my bf. Everyone knew about my bird. He was the first love of my life. My parents didn't approve of my bf, and kicked me out. I told them I would be back for my bird on Monday... I went back, and my mom sold him that weekend. I was beyond devastated. I looked for him and after a year tracked him down.. the new owner (the 2nd.. as the first didn't last long with him) said he "bonded" with her 10 year old daughter. She was also trying to breed him.. and refused. I was 30 and had him for over 20 odd years. I was devastated all over again.
Missing my bird, I quickly found another Red Headed Amazon. He was a rehome that wasn't working out. Her African Greys hated him. I took him in an instant. He was amazing the first 6 months when things started to turn.. he bonded with my husband. He did begin to attack me.. I got a bird behaviorist. Talked to the avian vet. It got to where I couldn't even change his bedding without almost getting my eye taken out. He screamed all day long until my husband came home.. still worked on him though now I had a 10 month old and another one on the way. I wasnt giving up on him. Then he stopped eating when my husband went away. My husband went away at least 2 weeks of the months. It was becoming a problem. By year 4 the avian vet suggest we try to rehome him.. we got him overweight and he had begun to lose, a lot. There was no underlying conditions.. he missed the hubs and with 2 small kids, and his aggression.. she was worried. I was heart broken all over again.
So my kids are older now. A 6 and 7 year old.. active, boys. We have an Australian Shepherd, love her.. but it isnt the same. I am a stay at home mom.. and I really miss having a companion. People don't get it, but the love from a bird, (as unstable as it is at times lol) is very different from the love of a dog.
But I am scared of losing my heart again. I want another Amazon. There is no other bird like them. They are LOUD, they are.. well.. moody, but they are hilarious. My kids know not to stick fingers in, but my little guy LOVES birds and I know would want to engage and help care for one.. my lilac crowned loved kids, the louder the better.. but I don't know how my kids would take a bird that may not take to them. So I am wondering if now is the time for another Amazon, or start with another feather friend.. and one day when the stars align, maybe then adopt a rehomed Amazon?
I have been around my aunts cockatoo (that pluked until it almost died as it was bonded to my uncle who worked late.. it hated everyone else) I dont love them, and don't want one. The self mutation really turned me off.
I have known many African greys.. I may be wrong, I find them very skittish and not good with fast moving, loud little ones.. at all. They seem a little sensitive, and not... "silly " like an amazon.
So I was thinking.. should I get a cockatiel? I know, it is supposedly a "starter" bird.. but maybe thats for a good reason. I know it won't be as funny as an amazon, but they seem more.. "stable" or not as "moody" which may be a great addition with the boys.
It is such a hard decision. When we got our dog, I actually had another one picked (a beautiful merle) and they spotted her and fell. She is a wonderful, sweet dog.. but they have zero interest in her. Well my oldest runs around with her.. but honestly, she is my husbands baby. So I keep struggling.. because all birds are a HUGE commitment, and live a really long time.. so I am juggling if I should go with my first love (an amazon) or go with something new but a better "family fit" until the kids are older and we can add. I did see a sweet cockatiel that is a total sweetie pie.. but I am torn. So torn.
Any help, or ideas would be soooo greatly appreciated.