ScreamBuddies
Walking the driveway
Yes, I know that with getting a bird this is exactly what i signed up for. I took the responsibility and prepared for it well.
I initially wanted a male cockatiel. I fell in love with one that had to be rehomed, due to the family moving. The post also mentioned 2 female cockatiels and some budgies. They were past pets, young at around a year old and the male was said to be particularily friendly. I thought it was perfect. I came to their place with money and a box, ready to rehome what seemed to be the perfect bird. Until i arroved, that is. Turns out, the bird was bonded with one of the females. It was a matter of take both or seperate them and drag them though depression and seperation issues. I wasnt prepared for two, but because i already fell in love with the bird, i returned with a pair.
Timeskip to today, in a month itll be a year with them. Daily reading books, treats, talking and out of cage time, i made it a promise to myself to spend atleast 15 mins daily with them. But now, theyre just kinda...there. I still provide out of cage time, fresh food and water, vegetables and fruits and grass every other day. But I just dont bond with them anymore. They became stressed and aggressive. The cause? The baby that I failed to prevent and they failed to raise. I spend every minute with him. Hes an absolute sweetheart. Fully feathered, hes now able to sit outside his warmed shoebox for very long. My online lessons? Hes with me. Video games? Hes with me. Drawing? Yep, right there on my lap. I just cant find interest in the old birds anymore when I have this sweet, fully tame bird right here with me.
Call me cruel, heartless, irresponsible, im all of those things. I want to love them and give them a good home but im not able to. This is not their fault and they deserve so much more.
So, the question remains: rehome? Ive been thinking this over so much. Im attached to them, gave them names, bonded with them. I thought theyll be my lifelong friends. Ill be getting married and theyll be there with me. But apparently, a little bird changed that. A bird that they brought into the world by nothing but instinct. I am so horribly heartbroken and mad at myself, but i just cant bring myself to spend time with them anymore.
Please give me advice.
I initially wanted a male cockatiel. I fell in love with one that had to be rehomed, due to the family moving. The post also mentioned 2 female cockatiels and some budgies. They were past pets, young at around a year old and the male was said to be particularily friendly. I thought it was perfect. I came to their place with money and a box, ready to rehome what seemed to be the perfect bird. Until i arroved, that is. Turns out, the bird was bonded with one of the females. It was a matter of take both or seperate them and drag them though depression and seperation issues. I wasnt prepared for two, but because i already fell in love with the bird, i returned with a pair.
Timeskip to today, in a month itll be a year with them. Daily reading books, treats, talking and out of cage time, i made it a promise to myself to spend atleast 15 mins daily with them. But now, theyre just kinda...there. I still provide out of cage time, fresh food and water, vegetables and fruits and grass every other day. But I just dont bond with them anymore. They became stressed and aggressive. The cause? The baby that I failed to prevent and they failed to raise. I spend every minute with him. Hes an absolute sweetheart. Fully feathered, hes now able to sit outside his warmed shoebox for very long. My online lessons? Hes with me. Video games? Hes with me. Drawing? Yep, right there on my lap. I just cant find interest in the old birds anymore when I have this sweet, fully tame bird right here with me.
Call me cruel, heartless, irresponsible, im all of those things. I want to love them and give them a good home but im not able to. This is not their fault and they deserve so much more.
So, the question remains: rehome? Ive been thinking this over so much. Im attached to them, gave them names, bonded with them. I thought theyll be my lifelong friends. Ill be getting married and theyll be there with me. But apparently, a little bird changed that. A bird that they brought into the world by nothing but instinct. I am so horribly heartbroken and mad at myself, but i just cant bring myself to spend time with them anymore.
Please give me advice.