Nevermind peeps I solved it
they were freaked out and missing my budgie lil Nell,( I came home late after a day out an found nell having a seizure, she had this huge limpoma by her bum , I tried to take her to an avian vet, but they were being careful coz of the bird flu going around an werent seeing any birds at all. when I did get there they just said could operate but change diet first more veggies less seeds pellets mix which I did, I spoke to my cousin who kept birds for years an worked with them at one time his opinion was she would die, an I could get her an op but she probably won't live through it but it's up to u , I spoke to vet 2nd time on phone an he said just said we could do op but she might not get through it .
so just decided to keep her happy with loads of outside play time her favourite songs an millet .) So bubbie an wacca...they must of seen me take her out room while she was having a fit but not bring her back, so that definitely freaked them out an they became even more timid, so brought nella in sooner an their demeanor completely change
when they saw each other I took her in in travel cage an sat her on the sofa while I got he bigger cage in they started talking to each other, an I put nella in her cage they copied when she ate so that was a big relief. I know it was a few days earlier but my idea to my family was right...from bub&wacca point of view they were still freaked Nellie never came back . Sorry about the waffle