Amen to Moonchild. Cockatiels are naturally curious. If he sees you doing something, and you are near him, he'll be interested. Eventually, if you are just around him, being interesting, he'll want you to be around. Buddy tends to be the MOST clingy when she isn't the center of attention. She doesn't always want scritches, but she loves just hanging out. Once you are accepted as flock (and it will take time) you'll probably wish he would give it a rest
QUOTE=moonchild;1684644]Nobody is saying there's any guarantee the bird will warm up to you in a few short months, though it definitely could happen. And nobody is saying he will want to perch on your finger, either.
All birds are different. There is no set "taming schedule" that can apply to all birds. And some never warm up to hands. My first tiel would not step up for me at all for the first few months, even though he immediately flew to my head and would ask for scritches. To this day (almost a year later) he will not
stay on my finger. He does allow me to move him from place to place with it but he has no desire to be there. It's just an individual thing.
Many people have had more success winning their birds' trust when they stop trying so hard. Just be around him as much as possible, talk to him, offer him treats, but also try to relax and don't set any expectations on him. They can sense our moods. The best thing to do is just accept that things will take time and not be in a rush. If you can't do that, then consider finding him a (carefully screened) new home. Not trying to be mean, just honest. Birds are not "easy pets" and have strong wills of their own that need to be respected in order to have a good relationship with them. Try to imagine things from the bird's perspective, and how you (a giant predator/alien) must seem to him. You are essentially trying to forge a friendship and understanding with a wild animal whose instincts tell it not to trust you. He has to overcome
instinct. It's not necessarily an easy thing.[/QUOTE]