Grieving / Mourning Advice

[azflcowboy]

Hello, 2 months ago my Moses (Solomon Island Eclectus) lost his best friend to cancer Moses has been with my Duchess (retired k-9 german shepherd) since Moses was a baby. He has not been the same since October 13th,2023.
I am hoping I can receive advice or suggestions as to how I can help Moses Grieve and Recover. I heard stories that sometimes birds can mourn for years after the loss of a loved one (human or other).
He does not talk as much as he used to talk. He seems to wish to be alone rather than he usually likes to sit with my wife and I and watch TV.
Years ago Moses would not go into his sleeping cage unless his buddy Duchess was in the same room. Since that time he has been sleeping in the same room with Duchess (until she passed away) This is also our very large master bedroom.
Now Moses does not wish to go into the cage and is going to his sleeping cage later and later in the night. He used to go to me for what we call "sleeping time" between 8 pm and 8:30 pm. Now it is getting later and later. I would say about 8pm Moses want to go "sleeping time" and he would hop down and go on my hand and would go to his sleeping cage with no problem. Now he does not do this and prefers to go under the large TV wall unit . He often brings his favorite toy and the "red ball" that Duchess would play with and take it under the TV wall unit.
My wife recently saw Moses feeding the "red ball" that belonged to my girl Duchess
In closing anyone have advice or suggestion to help Moses during this mourning / grieving time?
Thank you and God Bless
Larry azflcowboy
PS i once attached a picture of my k-9 dog Duchess and Moses but had to remove it as dogs were not permitted to be posted.

 

[Xoetix]

Hello, 2 months ago my Moses (Solomon Island Eclectus) lost his best friend to cancer Moses has been with my Duchess (retired k-9 german shepherd) since Moses was a baby. He has not been the same since October 13th,2023.
I am hoping I can receive advice or suggestions as to how I can help Moses Grieve and Recover. I heard stories that sometimes birds can mourn for years after the loss of a loved one (human or other).
He does not talk as much as he used to talk. He seems to wish to be alone rather than he usually likes to sit with my wife and I and watch TV.
Years ago Moses would not go into his sleeping cage unless his buddy Duchess was in the same room. Since that time he has been sleeping in the same room with Duchess (until she passed away) This is also our very large master bedroom.
Now Moses does not wish to go into the cage and is going to his sleeping cage later and later in the night. He used to go to me for what we call "sleeping time" between 8 pm and 8:30 pm. Now it is getting later and later. I would say about 8pm Moses want to go "sleeping time" and he would hop down and go on my hand and would go to his sleeping cage with no problem. Now he does not do this and prefers to go under the large TV wall unit . He often brings his favorite toy and the "red ball" that Duchess would play with and take it under the TV wall unit.
My wife recently saw Moses feeding the "red ball" that belonged to my girl Duchess
In closing anyone have advice or suggestion to help Moses during this mourning / grieving time?
Thank you and God Bless
Larry azflcowboy
PS i once attached a picture of my k-9 dog Duchess and Moses but had to remove it as dogs were not permitted to be posted.

Hello and welcome!

 

[Xoetix]

I didn't realize the reast of my message didn't post. I am so sorry. Good lord that was terrible.

I am so sorry for your loss. Birds are much like people in that they can grieve for quite a while. How old is Moses now?

 

[Icey]

So sorry for your loss
It can take a long time for us all to heal after the loss of a loved one. I believe animals go through a reasonably long time to grieve also.
My condolences to you and your family.
Only time will heal.
It's bittersweet that he associates the red ball with his best friend.
I'm not sure how you feel about getting a new companion for him, in time, but apart from that, shower him with lots of TLC.

 

[Parutti]

I'm so sorry about the loss of Duchess.

I think parrots can understand a lot more in our body language and voice than we realize. You could try talking to Moses about Duchess, like ask him if he misses Duchess and tell him you miss her, and tell stories about Duchess and things you all did together. Talk about how hard this time is for all of you and that it's ok to miss her a lot, and that you know everyone grieves differently and it's ok for Moses to be sad, but that you hope he finds some happy days sometimes too.

I remember seeing photos of the two of them on a different forum and they obviously had an instant, beautiful friendship. You are so kind to want to help Moses through this period and hopefully you will help each other

 

[azflcowboy]

Hello I was asked to post a little info as i am new member.
My service comforter is Moses a 4 year old Solomon Island Eclectus.
I am a DAV from the Vietnam War.
I just lost my service dog of 13 years to cancer and her buddy is Moses.
Moses and my service dog have been very close since we brought Moses home as a baby 4 years ago.
2 years ago Moses flew the coop (our home) i did not have his wings clipped and he ran away from home through an open door i did not close fast enough
I think he just turned into a young Green Man looking for a red Ecky or at least a red chicken.
He was gone over night and flew home the next day.
The first thing he said when coming into the home was "Hi Duchy"
We live in a rural area of north central florida so it was answer to prayers when he returned home and a MIRACLE
Moses is going through 2 months now of mourning and grieving. Just this past week i think because of stress and anxiety he is drinking alot of water.
Here is the post i recently posted:

Hello, 2 months ago my Moses (Solomon Island Eclectus) lost his best friend to cancer Moses has been with my Duchess (retired k-9 german shepherd) since Moses was a baby. He has not been the same since October 13th,2023.

I am hoping I can receive advice or suggestions as to how I can help Moses Grieve and Recover. I heard stories that sometimes birds can mourn for years after the loss of a loved one (human or other).

He does not talk as much as he used to talk. He seems to wish to be alone rather than he usually likes to sit with my wife and I and watch TV.

Years ago Moses would not go into his sleeping cage unless his buddy Duchess was in the same room. Since that time he has been sleeping in the same room with Duchess (until she passed away) This is also our very large master bedroom.

Now Moses does not wish to go into the cage and is going to his sleeping cage later and later in the night. He used to go to me for what we call "sleeping time" between 8 pm and 8:30 pm. Now it is getting later and later. I would say about 8pm Moses want to go "sleeping time" and he would hop down and go on my hand and would go to his sleeping cage with no problem. Now he does not do this and prefers to go under the large TV wall unit . He often brings his favorite toy and the "red ball" that Duchess would play with and take it under the TV wall unit.

My wife recently saw Moses feeding the "red ball" that belonged to my girl Duchess

In closing anyone have advice or suggestion to help Moses during this mourning / grieving time?

Thank you and God Bless

Larry azflcowboy

 

[Emma&pico]

I am so sorry for your loss