I'm sorry for all you've been thru but I agree w/ all that's been said. Check the A. Vet site. Then if you feel off about a vet get a new one.
I haven't signed a release for a normal vet visit, but have for a few human ones. I agree that's a probably a liability thing.
Before we got Buddy we had cats.
I lost my "son" to rabies cancer. Most people don't know this but their rabies vaccines can actually cause cancer. This was back in the day when they did it in the back of the neck. He ha d his 1st mass removed & the stapled it to let it heal. Before the staples came out 10 days later the mass was growing back. We lost him months later. I was happy to have that time w/ him. Mad as all get out @ the required vaccine to help in my state, killed him @ age 9.
Then a few years later they started doing these shots in their legs. The premiss was that the leg could be removed @ the joint & to also identify "What vaccine" was causing this spreadable cancer. I mean spreadable because if it gets surgery, when the scalpel cuts it, it can actually spread it, rapidly regrowing like in my " son".
I'm starting to cry @ the memory of this so pls, bare w/ me.
My husband & I always had our animals find us. Always they were strays that we took in, that needed a forever home.
We adopted a female kitty that was balls of fun. She was a scrappy little puff ball that was an instigating, little troublemaker who could do a cartwheel backflip in mid air.
I believe she was 6 when the mass on her leg was initially located. To guess what, rabies cancer again. Since she was part of the leg vaccinations we thought Thank goodness they only have to remove her leg. We can make it work, she can be thought to do things on three legs. We rushed her to the vet. Outcome, we can remove her leg, but we fear it will be a ton of money for you & it will rapidly come back. The cancer appears like it's all ready in the joint of the leg. It is rare when you hear this from a vet...
Take her home, keep her comfortable when it gets painful we can give her a shot & um well, she won't hurt anymore, she was 8.
This is a cancer that statistically happens to 1 family in an (obscene #) like every 100,000. We had 2 cats (unrelated) as my son came from another state & was indoors. In a ten year period & both outcomes just sucked.
I say if you feel like it's baloney & you're uncomfortable, find a New vet. If you're not onboard, you cannot approach it as a team. You, vet, & techs/nurse's. You need a group approach & if you have multiple fids even if you must look onto another state for a vet you
are comfortable with, it'll be worth it!
I hope you find a home here & maybe even a new vet!
Rain