Thanks guys.. and please don't be mad at my bf, I think he screwed up big time in the timing and the way he told me but he's a guy and guys never understand how to talk to girls.
He has been taking wonderful care of them and even brought them out to play when they probably would rather have chewed his neck off.
The day started off so crummy with so much pain and it was just a bad day to hear about anything. I thought his Christmas present package had arrived and that's why he was calling so I was really just shocked by what he said.
I would rather he tells me he can't deal with them properly than have them not receive what they need. He is also worried about me and he's been through about nine surgeries with me, he couldn't be more devoted.
I'm still angry about how he told me and I don't understand why he couldn't wait to discuss it till I got home. I called my mom but she just started telling me that the world doesn't stop turning just because your in the hospital.. blah blah blah.. and I just said goodbye and hung up. I know the world doesn't revolve around me and I know life goes on at home without me, I'm not a moron and the drugs they give me don't make me THAT dense.
I want the world at home to go on without me, It would be ridiculous to expect family to just sit around and feel bad for me 24/7.. They know I'd rather they go have fun and tell me about it later. I may have whiny days when I appreciate a little pity but I certainly don't sit here thinking I'm the most important person in the world.
Anyways, it's out there now and .. it's just out there now. He doesn't understand the birds like we do, that's all. I don't think he gets how devastating it would be for me if the last time I saw my birds, ever, was months ago when I had to go to the ER and told them I'd be home in a few days. I know it must be very hard for a non bird person to deal with them and I know my gray is really giving him hell..
I wish I could go home, everyone here is so nice, but I wanna go home. I will call the folks who sent numbers tomorrow if I can, talking on the phone is sometimes too much for me, makes me get sick, and I can't get sick again today, already hurts too much.
Thank you all so much for the info.
These are my birds..
Madison, 16 year old Blue and Gold Macaw
Rocky, 27 year old Yellow Naped Amazon
Tyler, 33 year old Timneh African Gray
Rocky has troubles with his liver because his previous owner fed him mostly sunflower seeds for the entire time she had him.. I added milk thistle and dandelions (secretly) to the mash and within days he was fine.. now I add it to each batch and he's fine.
He hates men, as he was physically abused by one before I got him.. however He was starting to form a relationship with my bf, from what he told me on the phone, so it's possible with a lot of patience that he might learn to put up with a guy without killing him.
Tyler curses like a sailor and has one leg/foot that must have been broken and not treated by a previous owner so he appreciates some flat, softer areas in his cage and adores his heated perch. I add Glucosamine to their mash and it seems to have helped.
He doesn't like to be pet much and hates to have toys hanging in his cage.. I think this is because he startles very easily and he is VERY clumsy so he falls down a lot. I put a bath towel underneath the newspaper at the bottom of his cage in case he falls. He prefers a smaller cage, I had to send the big one I got for him (year ago) because he was just too scared of it. He is fully flighted atm, because he taunts the other birds and he needs an escape route god forbid anyone got out while I wasn't home. He is an excellent flier unless he gets startled....
Madison is the only one who wasn't a rescue.. I had her sent to me from Florida but she wasn't the one that I was supposed to get, she was much younger and very sick.. so I hand fed her and she slept on my chest at night so I could feel her breathing and suction her out when I felt her having trouble. She is 16 years old now and is very spoiled and clingy with me. I love all my birds but Madison just holds a special place in my heart. I can't imagine not having her around.. she understands when I've had surgery that she has to be careful and more gentle.. she will gently touch my shirt and say 'ow, boo-boo'. She was very very sick for a a few months, recovered right before I had to come to the hospital, thank god..
It was just an infection from egg laying and holding in her poop.. she is back to normal now. This is the second time in her life she has laid eggs and I'm hoping it's the last.
I've gotta go now, need to go lie down and let someone else use the computer here.. I'll try to call tomorrow, thanks guys.
- Sarah