You know Lurch took about 5 years to get to being a bird that loved me, would mostly step up when asked, wasn't afraid of hands, etc.
At first if I offered a hand he would bite it if I didn't take it away, to eventually deciding the hand offered good things and could easily take him where he wanted to go. He'll get there when he's good and ready then it will be on to the next thing that bothers him. With Nerd he allowed pretty much anything I wanted to do except show him my evil toes, those weren't attached to me and had to be viciously attacked and driven away before they ate him or Daddy. I did finally get to the point he would not immediately attack them but I respected his phobia and intact toes. He of course hated having his feet or toes touched too so maybe it was just a feature, not a bug.
It'll be a journey for both of you but you'll get there.