Where is the idea coming from that Tegan has a screaming problem that needs modification?
I did, before I posted my question. She said that her husband had been woken from a nap when Tegan screamed. That doesn't sound like excessive screaming, just a one off incident. Any of my guys might vocalize, loudly, for any number of reasons, and if the nap was in the late afternoon - well, that can be a loud time in any parrot household.I think you may want to go back and reread the OP's original post.
Agreed - this has been going on for two years.I think this isn't just about the bird though. But a control thing. The OP also mentioned that he goes on about the cat and its ruining His couch.
I think before we can give more advice or suggestion or even our own thoughts, the OP will need to come in and answer a few questions.
Has she talked to him before about all of this in a civil manner without fighting or not during a fight? I believe she mentioned being married for s few years. Has there really been no communication and no compromise this whole time?
I think most of us believe marriage is about compromise and communication which is why many commented the way they did assuming communication and compromises have already happened with issues still happening.
I think you need to re read what she wrote...You may think it is wrong...I have been abused..these are the signs..re read her original post...He is NOT being fair to her at all., not one bit.Wow, guys, just wow. He doesn't sound like an animal abuser or spouse abuser to me. Not everyone is into birds, that's just the way the world is. Not everyone is head over heels with their little darlings quirks and sounds. They do make noise, sometimes it can be pretty constant even if it's not loud, and that can grate on people. It sounds like he's really just frustrated. I don't know about the rest of you, but I've had my fair share of days with my head buried in my hands going 'Oh for the love of all things purple, just shut up already" when my guys decide to tell the world how awesome they are. He's not beating the bird, he's not throwing things at the bird, he's not shaking the cage while screaming, he just sounds like over the last few years he's been getting more and more frustrated.
Perhaps the breaking point is he's now realizing the bird will be in a smaller area and he'll have less chances to escape the noise. Maybe he's just stressed out about other things and needs to work through them. Maybe there are other options out there for helping make this work out besides her leaving her husband. If this was a bird who was showing frustration and aggression, this place would be full of suggestions to help or cope. We'd be eager to try and make it work for the OP, but because it's a husband a ton of people are calling for divorce???? I'm really disappointed that there aren't more helpful replies here. Because I'm sure right now the OP is staring at everyone calling her husband abusive, hinting he'll go after her next and any potential children, and feeling even worse then when she posted. Even I think that's wrong.
I have not read this thread yet, but 24 people agree?Time to get rid of the husband..
That is important information that might have resulted in different suggestions if included in this thread. Judy your gut was right again -- the bird can be helped which will help the entire family.The bird has screaming problems. http://forums.avianavenue.com/conure-court/64513-dirving-me-insane.html
I doubt she will be back......Exactly Mercedez! I think we don't have all the information. Hopefully the OP will post again so we can see if we can help.
Why do you say that???I doubt she will be back......
Our live is....sort of complicated right now. We live in Puerto Rico and if you've never lived here I can't really describe it in a way that could make you understand what it's like being on this hellish rock. Basically it's been a MISERABLE 2 years for us. Finding out we can't bring Penny, we lost a dog in an accident, leaving behind every friend and family member I have, and living in PR is terrible. There are over 100,000 homeless sick dogs on the street, animal abuse is rampant, people are mean and rude, there is a language barrier, we have no friends, and PR has insane crime rates. Coming from rural Alaska to here was extremely stressful and difficult on both of us and it's definitely manifested itself into other aspects of our life. This place makes me lose a lot of faith in humanity. I can't even begin to tell you how glad we are to be moving in 37 days. So that tension gets displaced in a lot of ways.Honestly, it sounds to me like there is something else bothering him, which causes little things (cat hair, etc.) to make him lash out.
Wow, guys, just wow. He doesn't sound like an animal abuser or spouse abuser to me.
Laurul see above about Puerto Rico in regards to a life changeFirst of all, your husband does meet the criteria as an abusive spouse just for his mental and emotional abuse toward you. My question is what has changed either in his life or the relationship that has created such a huge change in him that he has become abusive to you? Or, has he always been passive/aggressive abusive and you did not notice? When you say "He doesn't mean it" the things he says, that is a therapists heads-up telling them they are working with an abused spouse.
We have talked about it and there have been compromises. Things have gotten much better but are still not what I consider ideal. I moved Tegan out of the living area (it made him scream too much) into a bird room and I do my best to keep him well occupied and well fed. Hubby got a little better about the complaining but he can still snap and get all pissy about it (especially when woken from a nap!). If Tegan is screaming for a legitimate reason (and he usually is) I just ignore the complaints and change the subject. He's a bit ADD mentally so if I keep his mind on something else that usually works. Training the husband is actually not as hard as I thought.Has she talked to him before about all of this in a civil manner without fighting or not during a fight? I believe she mentioned being married for s few years. Has there really been no communication and no compromise this whole time?