aidan16
Meeting neighbors
- Joined
- 11/2/23
- Messages
- 41
- Real Name
- Aidan
Hi yall! Sorry for the upcoming rambles, I'm a first time bird owner with my baby caique Na'ringa! I have so many thoughts and feelings with and about this new lifetime experience, and I wanted a place to kind of catalogue my daily life with her, just to vocalize it, and who knows, maybe get some advice!
Even so, it's been so comforting having this place of knowledge and kinship to reference, you all have had your own wonderful experiences with your feathered friends, and it warms my heart to read about yall and your babies!
Every day with Na'ringa has been fun, loving and rewarding, I'll pick up her poop everywhere forever, getting to know her, and see her experience new things and become comfortable and spunky and silly has honestly greatly improved my own quality of life, I'm taking better care of myself in the way I care for her as well, it has honestly been a dream come true!
And despite all of this fun and love, life is not a sitcom! Her and I have grown frustrated of each other at times, two entirely different species of animals being in close contact can do that. I have been keeping my frustration at a cool level where I can think objectively, Na'ringa however is a baby, who doesnt speak my language, and I'm only just beginning to understand her body language and what it means.
She and I have a good, stable schedule on my workdays, we both know what to expect; wake up in the morning, weigh in, prepare breakfast, put on kids show/movie for her, sit together and eat, and then go to work. Get home, snuggle, shower, preen time, prepare dinner, eating, more snuggles, and then bed. She loves these days! All stable, she gets to have fun, get snuggles, all that!
We have been busy most of my days off, either grocery shopping, having family come over, Thanksgiving, cleaning, etc. Today was my first proper, uninterrupted day off, which was new to her! Got her up, weighed, snuggled, fed, and while she was eating I started to play video games! Her interest was piqued- what is this headset and controller? Did her little ‘want something dance', and went to nibble on my controller.
I properly redirected, and took several breaks in the few hours I was playing to play and snuggle and preen with her, along with just time to chill together. Eventually though, she became irritated even as I was playing with her, and exhibited the first signs of being actually upset with me, sharp chittering and test bites.
This frustrated me, which frustrated her. She is still learning to play, and find her boundaries. She was irritated because of the video game, because I didn't allow her to climb Leia's kennel, because I redirected her from chewing on wires and the controller. I grew frustrated enough I was going to put her in her cage, when I paused.
Her cage is supposed to be a safe, fun place. As much as I wanted a break from her crankiness, I didnt want her to correlate my frustration to cage time. So I took a deep breath, sat down with her, and shared a nutriberry with her. It did not taste great, but she was more willing to calm down and eat if she saw me doing it. So in a weird, cathartic way, we ate birdseed together.
It was enough of a bonding distraction that she calmed down a good bit, as did I. I then put some millet in her cage for her to eat, giving both her and I a break. I never thought eating birdseed would be the best way to calm down, but I am proud of myself to find that way to even out our emotions for the both of us. I'm in no way perfect and have a lot to learn, but that was my victory for today!
I trained my service dog, Leia. There were many moments of frustration with her and from her back when her and I were learning eachother all those years ago, and now we are so close, even though life changes and little hiccups. I am hoping the same will be said for Na'ringa and I. Again, sorry for the long post, I just find it cathartic to put these thoughts somewhere! Now I'm off to bed, for our routine to start again!
Even so, it's been so comforting having this place of knowledge and kinship to reference, you all have had your own wonderful experiences with your feathered friends, and it warms my heart to read about yall and your babies!
Every day with Na'ringa has been fun, loving and rewarding, I'll pick up her poop everywhere forever, getting to know her, and see her experience new things and become comfortable and spunky and silly has honestly greatly improved my own quality of life, I'm taking better care of myself in the way I care for her as well, it has honestly been a dream come true!
And despite all of this fun and love, life is not a sitcom! Her and I have grown frustrated of each other at times, two entirely different species of animals being in close contact can do that. I have been keeping my frustration at a cool level where I can think objectively, Na'ringa however is a baby, who doesnt speak my language, and I'm only just beginning to understand her body language and what it means.
She and I have a good, stable schedule on my workdays, we both know what to expect; wake up in the morning, weigh in, prepare breakfast, put on kids show/movie for her, sit together and eat, and then go to work. Get home, snuggle, shower, preen time, prepare dinner, eating, more snuggles, and then bed. She loves these days! All stable, she gets to have fun, get snuggles, all that!
We have been busy most of my days off, either grocery shopping, having family come over, Thanksgiving, cleaning, etc. Today was my first proper, uninterrupted day off, which was new to her! Got her up, weighed, snuggled, fed, and while she was eating I started to play video games! Her interest was piqued- what is this headset and controller? Did her little ‘want something dance', and went to nibble on my controller.
I properly redirected, and took several breaks in the few hours I was playing to play and snuggle and preen with her, along with just time to chill together. Eventually though, she became irritated even as I was playing with her, and exhibited the first signs of being actually upset with me, sharp chittering and test bites.
This frustrated me, which frustrated her. She is still learning to play, and find her boundaries. She was irritated because of the video game, because I didn't allow her to climb Leia's kennel, because I redirected her from chewing on wires and the controller. I grew frustrated enough I was going to put her in her cage, when I paused.
Her cage is supposed to be a safe, fun place. As much as I wanted a break from her crankiness, I didnt want her to correlate my frustration to cage time. So I took a deep breath, sat down with her, and shared a nutriberry with her. It did not taste great, but she was more willing to calm down and eat if she saw me doing it. So in a weird, cathartic way, we ate birdseed together.
It was enough of a bonding distraction that she calmed down a good bit, as did I. I then put some millet in her cage for her to eat, giving both her and I a break. I never thought eating birdseed would be the best way to calm down, but I am proud of myself to find that way to even out our emotions for the both of us. I'm in no way perfect and have a lot to learn, but that was my victory for today!
I trained my service dog, Leia. There were many moments of frustration with her and from her back when her and I were learning eachother all those years ago, and now we are so close, even though life changes and little hiccups. I am hoping the same will be said for Na'ringa and I. Again, sorry for the long post, I just find it cathartic to put these thoughts somewhere! Now I'm off to bed, for our routine to start again!