Instead of stepping her up on your hand, present her with a closed fist so she does not see fingers and see if she will step on the fist for the forearm. It is very difficult but not impossible to get around hand shyness. The key is to NEVER enclose the bird in your hand. It took me three years to show my tiel Chip I would not grab him. He would then step on my closed fist or my forearm; but if I reached toward him with an open hand, he was outta here!