Paco passed Jan 5, 2022

[Snowghost]

It has been two weeks now, i don't cry every day like I used to. I still haven't brought myself to take down his cage. I did put his velvet bag with his ashes in my dresser drawer, I can't look at it right now. I am healing and feel that it will take longer then I thought to get past his death. I think of Bert Allen who was a CAG owner here and his thread, Tinker is home, we followed him, he and his wife bought Tinker from a breeder and had to wait for him to be weaned before he came home. I followed his stories of Tinker growing and learning. Sadly one morning, Tinker flew to his knee as he did every morning and died in Bert's arms. Necropsy determined that Tinker had a brain tumor. He said he would never get another bird and I always didn't understand. Maybe I do now. I have decided to stay with this group and hopefully help other bird parents. The support, advice and comfort I have received I that thought about every day. I hope that I too will be able to do that for someone else.

Thank you,

Terri

 

[zoo mom]

I am glad you are going to stay. And who knows. Maybe someday a bird will need you, and you can open your heart once more.

 

[Icey]

You have a lot to offer other bird owners in the way of advice.
I look forward to seeing your posts

 

[Snowghost]

Thank you @Icey it means a lot to me.

 

[Toy]

Never say never. One day a bird may come into your life again. You have a lot to offer.

 

[Shannan]

I am so happy that you are planning on staying with us. I love your stories and you have so much good advice to share, especially for the very timid birds that not all of us have experienced first hand. I hope that you continue to heal (as I have as well). Know you are among friends.

 

[Emma&pico]

It has been two weeks now, i don't cry every day like I used to. I still haven't brought myself to take down his cage. I did put his velvet bag with his ashes in my dresser drawer, I can't look at it right now. I am healing and feel that it will take longer then I thought to get past his death. I think of Bert Allen who was a CAG owner here and his thread, Tinker is home, we followed him, he and his wife bought Tinker from a breeder and had to wait for him to be weaned before he came home. I followed his stories of Tinker growing and learning. Sadly one morning, Tinker flew to his knee as he did every morning and died in Bert's arms. Necropsy determined that Tinker had a brain tumor. He said he would never get another bird and I always didn't understand. Maybe I do now. I have decided to stay with this group and hopefully help other bird parents. The support, advice and comfort I have received I that thought about every day. I hope that I too will be able to do that for someone else.

Thank you,

Terri

So glad your staying with us all us are here if you need us too

never say never you are amazing and one day a unlucky parrot might just get lucky going to your home to be loved and cherished

 

[Sparkles99]

Happy that you're staying! Maybe helping others will help you heal.

 

[Snowghost]

I was really doing well, and then today, I am missing my boy so badly. Just not talking to him drives me insane. I cooked, cleaned, showered, we chattered and whistled to each other all day. It will be 3 weeks this Thursday, lord how long will this pain last?

 

[Emma&pico]

I was really doing well, and then today, I am missing my boy so badly. Just not talking to him drives me insane. I cooked, cleaned, showered, we chattered and whistled to each other all day. It will be 3 weeks this Thursday, lord how long will this pain last?

Grieves different for everyone you just have to take it at your pace do what gets you through the day time heals slowly when we losted our dogs it was months and even today 5years years later we miss them so much

 

[Snowghost]

@Emma&pico I understand, I had to put my dog down in 2006, I never had another dog. I guess with Paco he was like my friend, we were home all day together and my companion, talking etc. I guess that is what I am grieving about, the silence. I can't even think of being around another bird right now, I would break down in sobs. The weather is crappy and that isn't helping. Thank you for your reply. Chatting here, really helps.

 

[Emma&pico]

@Emma&pico I understand, I had to put my dog down in 2006, I never had another dog. I guess with Paco he was like my friend, we were home all day together and my companion, talking etc. I guess that is what I am grieving about, the silence. I can't even think of being around another bird right now, I would break down in sobs. The weather is crappy and that isn't helping. Thank you for your reply. Chatting here, really helps.

Is there anything you enjoy doing reading etc do you have family near you to visit something to take your mind off the silence a bit

 

[Snowghost]

They don't understand, people think he was just a bird, that's why I post here, at least I have people that understand.

 

[Emma&pico]

They don't understand, people think he was just a bird, that's why I post here, at least I have people that understand.

I understand none of my friends get how much my birds or reptiles mean to me

 

[Snowghost]

I understand none of my friends get how much my birds or reptiles mean to me

I enjoy reptiles as well, too funny! I love all animals, even spiders.

 

[Emma&pico]

I enjoy reptiles as well, too funny! I love all animals, even spiders.

Oh no spiders are a step too far for me haha
I love all animals too I just find looking after them walking dogs etc relaxing

 

[Emma&pico]

I enjoy reptiles as well, too funny! I love all animals, even spiders.

Do you have any reptiles

 

[Snowghost]

No, my room mate is terrified of them. He was afraid of Paco too.
I don't like spiders hanging in the shower but I will scoop them up and put them outside.

 

[zoo mom]

It takes quite a while. Yesterday evening when I was entering the birds room to spend time with them, I said hi to everyone. Including Andre who has been gone since November. After saying hi to him I had to have a cry, knowing that he would never again answer with "Andre's my baby".

 

[zoo mom]

Take all the time you need.