I honestly thought I would never be posting this/ asking about this soon. I lost my 12-year-old baby girl on the 7th and I'm super distraught. I had gotten sick at the beginning of February and sadly wasn't able to take care of my babies for three days. My mom was looking after them (she knows how to care for them) but sadly never checked their weight in those days (I forgot to ask as well). In those days she had dropped to 61 grams (normally around 67 grams) and started looking raggedy. She then started to be less active and have "coordination issues" like falling and missing landings while flying. By the time we got her to the vet, she was not herself. They thought it was some bacteria issue and the game plan was some antibiotics, medicam for the pain, and high-calorie food. We hadn't gotten a blood test as she was so tiny and worried she wouldn't do well with it, we were only going to get it if she wasn't better in a few days. By the time we got back home, she was so tired, her wings dropped, and sneezing. I called the vet as soon as I saw but within a few minutes she seem to have stopped breathing, fallen, and sadly passed. It was honestly one of the hardest and traumatic things for me to see and I'm still really struggling with that. The vet assumes that maybe she had a genetic issue that finally just took its toll and thinks she at least went fast. But I still feel so much guilt (which I assume we all do about these sorts of things) and haven't been able to function. She was the type to be snuggling with me almost all the time. She loved to dance, play and snuggle all day. I miss her so much and sadly don't know how to function without her.
Sadly my other baby seems to be going through the same thing. While they weren't always the best of friends, he enjoyed being around her, always wanted to snuggle with her, and wanted to do everything she was doing. He is quite a scared bird (being a rescue) and sadly is still very afraid of things like hands and most people. I have worked enough with him to get him used to stepping up, very rarely snuggling with me, and just being happier being around people. We are still not at a point where we are close and where he is not afraid to be handled all the time. Sadly a lot of things I got him used to is because he saw her doing it. He would try new things by just seeing her do the same thing. Every time she flew over to sit on me, he would be right behind her. If he wasn't with her, he was spending his day ripping apart toys and eating. With her gone, he seems lost. He wakes up in the morning and stares at her home. I haven't been able to even think about moving her cage, it's just something I can't do yet. He's not eating as much as he used to as it was another thing they did together. When he was out playing today he climb around her cage just looking for her. I thought maybe he wanted to go in there but when I tried to offer it to him he ran out of the doorway so fast. I don't know how to help him. I try eating with him, playing with him, and being with him ( I work from home so I was always with them a ton anyways). It just doesn't seem to be working and now I am really worried about him being depressed and getting sick.
I never thought we would lose her so soon and I know we are both just lost. I feel guilty not being as close with him as I was her but I was honestly trying to let him take his time since he was so scared. But now I just wish he was more bonded with me as I feel it would be easier for him. The vet said it was alright to give him the higher calorie pellets mixed with his normal pellet dinner so I've started that to try and help with his weight as he has lost a little over the past two days. Has anyone else gone through something similar? Is there any way I can ease or make him feel better? Sorry for the long story and rambling, I just knew if anywhere was going to understand, it would be here. We both lost our best friend and were not sure what to do.
Sadly my other baby seems to be going through the same thing. While they weren't always the best of friends, he enjoyed being around her, always wanted to snuggle with her, and wanted to do everything she was doing. He is quite a scared bird (being a rescue) and sadly is still very afraid of things like hands and most people. I have worked enough with him to get him used to stepping up, very rarely snuggling with me, and just being happier being around people. We are still not at a point where we are close and where he is not afraid to be handled all the time. Sadly a lot of things I got him used to is because he saw her doing it. He would try new things by just seeing her do the same thing. Every time she flew over to sit on me, he would be right behind her. If he wasn't with her, he was spending his day ripping apart toys and eating. With her gone, he seems lost. He wakes up in the morning and stares at her home. I haven't been able to even think about moving her cage, it's just something I can't do yet. He's not eating as much as he used to as it was another thing they did together. When he was out playing today he climb around her cage just looking for her. I thought maybe he wanted to go in there but when I tried to offer it to him he ran out of the doorway so fast. I don't know how to help him. I try eating with him, playing with him, and being with him ( I work from home so I was always with them a ton anyways). It just doesn't seem to be working and now I am really worried about him being depressed and getting sick.
I never thought we would lose her so soon and I know we are both just lost. I feel guilty not being as close with him as I was her but I was honestly trying to let him take his time since he was so scared. But now I just wish he was more bonded with me as I feel it would be easier for him. The vet said it was alright to give him the higher calorie pellets mixed with his normal pellet dinner so I've started that to try and help with his weight as he has lost a little over the past two days. Has anyone else gone through something similar? Is there any way I can ease or make him feel better? Sorry for the long story and rambling, I just knew if anywhere was going to understand, it would be here. We both lost our best friend and were not sure what to do.