Vittror
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Probably a very unpopular opinion here but: if my partner would treat my birds that way - he wouldn't handle them anymore.he doesn't feel like it ever since then. although at nights, right before bed when he's sleepy he acts like his old self and cuddles again. it gets my hopes up but the next day, he's back to being terrified by my hands..
and the thing that completely blows my mind is he likes my bf more than me and my bf doesnt so much as feed him or cuddle him and he actually had an accident of almost killing him.. and my bird still likes him more when i never treated him badly. now that he flies away from me, to put him back, my bf grabs him and puts him back, slamming the door usually. none of that phases my bird..
and as i said before i'm the only one ever doing any training, feeding, treats, cleaning etc.. and now i cant even manage my own bird.
my bf gets angry and doesnt see well so when he puts him back he's not as gentle, regardless of what i say. he thinks its ok because the bird likes him more still
i might just end up rehoming him because if my bird only likes the person who isn't exactly nice to him, and wont let me handle him then it's not even safe..
i'm still doing the entire starting over thing but its daunting when my bf comes back and all my bird wants is him and my bf doesnt want to hold him, and when he does he does for 10 minutes while he's using the computer, not petting the bird or giving any actual attention except yelling when he gets bit, which is often.
sorry i'm all over the place
As in I wouldn't let him handle my birds anymore.
Look, I don't know what the almost killing thing was about but sadly accidents do happen, even when we don't want to.
I don't know about this situation, wasn't there at the time so it's not up to me to judge about it.
But what you describe about your boyfriend grabbing your bird, slamming the door, yelling.. you can say it doesn't phase your bird but I don't really believe that to be honestly.
And well if it doesn't phase your bird, cool, but that's not a way to treat whatever kind of animal?
Also if your bird is still afraid of hands I would say grabbing him is a really huge no go.
Except for very dangerous situations where you must act and such but otherwise? No.
Could it be an idea to handle your bird in a room seperated from your boyfriend?
Maybe that way you could (over time) just calmly rebuild your bond with your bird.
Honestly I don't know the consequences if your bird is seperated from his favorite person and if that would be a good thing to do but the situation like this is not good either.
And if you decide to rehome him he also wouldn't be with your boyfriend so I guess it wouldn't matter much in that perspective? But I might be completely wrong here, pure speculating from my side.