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Loss of my baby

James1029

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Hi all,
This is my first post, even though I'm a long time lurker. I just had no where else to go where people would understand.

Last night, during a very strong storm, a tree fell and hit the house. It greatly scared my two cockatiels, a standard gray male named Drumstick, and lutino female, named Chicken Wing.

They had been covered and were already asleep, so it really bothered them. I took a while to comfort both of them, and when it seemed they both had calmed down, I recovered their cage and went to bed. This morning, when I woke up, my baby girl was not moving. I open the cage to check on her, and she had passed away in the night.

I am inconsolable. I'd raised them both from hatchlings, and had to work really hard to keep her alive as a baby. She was my most cuddly, and always love to snuggle with me. I'm in tears, and happen all day. To a lot of people it sounds silly, because she was "just a bit", but I feel like I've lost a piece of my heart.

I'm sorry for dumping this on everyone in my first post, but like I said, I know where else to turn where people would understand. I love and miss her so much. Thanks for listening.

James
 

Shannan

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:sorrow: So sorry for your loss. Fly free baby girl....
 

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Oh no, that is tough! I am really sorry for your loss :(
 

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Oh my gosh, I am so sorry for your loss! That must have been so traumatic for everyone - the tree, and then your little one. My heart absolutely goes out to you.
 

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Im sorry this must have been so scary for all. I’m so sorry about your baby girl. Please know that you have people that understand here. Let us know how else we can help
 

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That is awful I'm so sorry. :sorrow:
 

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I am sorry for your loss.
 

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:sadhug2::sad10:

I'm so sorry for your loss .
You did right to reach out to us.

Parrot people bonds are so special...they are incredible creatures.

I've had loss myself... and it's the unexpected before their times ones that are hardest to endure. The pain lasts longer to at least for me...when they've had a full lifetime I feel peace with sadness

Sending you love
 

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Oh this is so terribly tragic,I'm so very sorry for your loss.
 

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Im so sorry this happened to you and your bird family. I hope you have all the time and comfort you need to grieve. I’m so glad you posted. Be encouraged to keep expressing your feelings here —this community gets it.
 

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We understand your loss. I'm so very sorry.
 

Spearmint

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Bird, dog or person, we still experience the same amount of grief for them each, their size doesn't match how much we love them.
I'm so very sorry for your loss, :sorrow:
 

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I am so sorry for your loss. It is not silly, the grief is real. I also lost a female tiel last summer. I still think of her everyday. Your other tiel may also grieve her loss. Keep in touch here...we all understand.
 

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So sorry for your loss. How is your male doing?
 

James1029

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Thanks everyone for your kind words. I read them all yesterday; I just didn't have it in me to respond. I found this picture of my baby girl last night. Her favorite place to chill was on my chest, holding onto my lip. She wasn't biting; it was more just her way of holding hands.

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And this is my baby boy. He is definitely missing her. He spent last on "her'' perch, calling her name. He seems ok this morning, but I'm still trying to figure out if/when to get him another companion.

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What worries me is that he's pretty territorial, and gets VERY hormonal during the spring time. So I'm going to have to play it by ear. Any suggestions?

Thanks again all
 

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So sorry for your loss.
 

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I´m very sorry for your loss :(
 

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I'm sorry for your loss :sadhug2:
 
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