tlday13
Walking the driveway
- Joined
- 10/16/09
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- Tracy
To realize that you can love a foster bird, but not necessarily think this bird will be a good fit for your family?
I love Jewel... I truly do. But I'm not certain we will be the best forever family for her. My kids make her nervous.. and oddly enough, the younger one is more willing to respect her boundaries than the older child. (Who is mildly autistic). I don't know if her first family had kids, but I'm guessing they didn't.
She (Jewel) has warmed up to me a lot... and I thought that would be awesome being bird's one person. But I'm starting to realize that maybe I'm wanting more of a 'family' bird... one that the kids could at least hold under supervision.. I can respect that Jewel doesn't want that and don't want to force her into a mold that she can't fit into.
I still plan on working the best I can for Jewels diet and interactions... she deserves our best.
But I'm also opening my mind and heart to the idea that loving her might mean letting her move on when our time with her is up (at the end of Dec).
She's my first foster, and I guess I was sorta hoping she would fit right in... and she still might warm up to all of us.. its only been 1 month and that's like a nanosecond in bird time.
I guess I just wanted to "talk" about it to people who might understand. you know?
Tracy
I love Jewel... I truly do. But I'm not certain we will be the best forever family for her. My kids make her nervous.. and oddly enough, the younger one is more willing to respect her boundaries than the older child. (Who is mildly autistic). I don't know if her first family had kids, but I'm guessing they didn't.
She (Jewel) has warmed up to me a lot... and I thought that would be awesome being bird's one person. But I'm starting to realize that maybe I'm wanting more of a 'family' bird... one that the kids could at least hold under supervision.. I can respect that Jewel doesn't want that and don't want to force her into a mold that she can't fit into.
I still plan on working the best I can for Jewels diet and interactions... she deserves our best.
But I'm also opening my mind and heart to the idea that loving her might mean letting her move on when our time with her is up (at the end of Dec).
She's my first foster, and I guess I was sorta hoping she would fit right in... and she still might warm up to all of us.. its only been 1 month and that's like a nanosecond in bird time.
I guess I just wanted to "talk" about it to people who might understand. you know?
Tracy