Stevetomobs
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In this post I am going to be completely honest by my own knowledge and I refuse to let myself live this lie any longer.
For the last few posts I have made, I have been talking about my budgies Sherbert and R.R and how I have been attempting to ‘train’ them.
At first I was excited and wanted to do so much with them. Then my habits got the better of me.
I let them out of their cage every once and a while and let them fly around to their hearts content and just let them general hang about.
I watched them very closely but didn’t dare to disturb them in fear of losing the little trust they had in me.
That just turned into a regular thing, I would let them out and just plain leave them alone. Only looking when I heard them flying or Jesse Bird screeching at them.
After that everything went down hill, they refused to allow me to put them in the cage by myself. I had to attempt maybe 10 or more times before they even let me get them close to the cage while in my hand/perch before just flying back to where I had gotten them from.
I tried to be as patient as I could but my temper got the best of me. R.R was already in the cage and Sherbert stepped away every time I got my finger near her. She stepped on, flew back. And stepped back every single time I wanted her to step on my finger.
This is where things get bad. It was past midnight and all I wanted to do was go to sleep. I was literally begging Sherbert to let me put her back in the cage with R.R. She refused, I just wanted to go to sleep so bad and my temper was even making me think to just grab a bowl or container and force her in.
Luckily that wasn’t the case but it’s still not good what I did. I grabbed her from behind and put her in the cage.
She was biting and fighting against me, not for blood so that’s good, but after I got her in I just plain said I was sorry and went to bed.
Same thing happened with R.R after that but under different circumstances.
It finally got to the point where I stopped leaving food outside of the cage for them so they had to go back inside the cage if they wanted to eat.
Anytime one of them went in to eat I just closed the door and hoped the other would let me put them up.
I feel horrible about those decisions, especially using force to get them in.
After what happened with R.R I was too afraid to even let them out in fear I would never be able to get them back in.
I have failed to be a good owner. I’ve failed to continue training them out of fear that my temper my get out of hand again or I might do something wrong and lose any of the trust they have left in me. Heck, I’ve even failed to try to expand their diet beyond plain seed and spray millet.
And now that you know of the horrible owner I’ve been, I propose another one of my usually horrible and stupid plans.
I would like to move their cage and them into my room on a table by my bed. Moving them away from the other birds they are currently near.
‘Why that?’, you may ask. Well I’ve tried not to mention this at all in fear of being shamed upon here but all the other parakeets I own aren’t trained or anywhere close to it.
Not they’re parents, not the newer two Stormy and Thundery. None of the birds except Jesse. I didn’t even train him. That was my uncle and mom.
I’m not saying I want isolate them from any other birds because I love only them. I just want to get the hang of training in general before I do anything more rash than this.
I just feel the others don’t show them good habits, they move away as soon as I try to change their food and water and huddle in a corner out of fear.
I’m not saying I’m giving up the the ones in the group cage, but I would rather get the hang of training in general before I try to change their minds about me.
Considering how long they have been afraid of me and how may of them there are, I doubt it will be easy to change their minds.
As I said I am afraid if I try anything I will just make things worse. I just want to train R.R and Sherbert to begin with and then attempt to expand onward from there.
I know this is probably sounding like another one of my stupid ideas, which it probably is. But I genuinely want to learn how to be better and not make these horrible mistakes anymore.
I want to learn from these things and help the other budgies not fear me anymore.
I know I’m a horrible owner for doing all these things I’ve said, but please. I ask for forgiveness from the community for not doing any of this sooner. I’ve just been so afraid and confused.
Please, if anyone can or wants to help me with this. I thank you so so much.
And again, I’m sorry for letting all this happen and not trying to fix it sooner..
For the last few posts I have made, I have been talking about my budgies Sherbert and R.R and how I have been attempting to ‘train’ them.
At first I was excited and wanted to do so much with them. Then my habits got the better of me.
I let them out of their cage every once and a while and let them fly around to their hearts content and just let them general hang about.
I watched them very closely but didn’t dare to disturb them in fear of losing the little trust they had in me.
That just turned into a regular thing, I would let them out and just plain leave them alone. Only looking when I heard them flying or Jesse Bird screeching at them.
After that everything went down hill, they refused to allow me to put them in the cage by myself. I had to attempt maybe 10 or more times before they even let me get them close to the cage while in my hand/perch before just flying back to where I had gotten them from.
I tried to be as patient as I could but my temper got the best of me. R.R was already in the cage and Sherbert stepped away every time I got my finger near her. She stepped on, flew back. And stepped back every single time I wanted her to step on my finger.
This is where things get bad. It was past midnight and all I wanted to do was go to sleep. I was literally begging Sherbert to let me put her back in the cage with R.R. She refused, I just wanted to go to sleep so bad and my temper was even making me think to just grab a bowl or container and force her in.
Luckily that wasn’t the case but it’s still not good what I did. I grabbed her from behind and put her in the cage.
She was biting and fighting against me, not for blood so that’s good, but after I got her in I just plain said I was sorry and went to bed.
Same thing happened with R.R after that but under different circumstances.
It finally got to the point where I stopped leaving food outside of the cage for them so they had to go back inside the cage if they wanted to eat.
Anytime one of them went in to eat I just closed the door and hoped the other would let me put them up.
I feel horrible about those decisions, especially using force to get them in.
After what happened with R.R I was too afraid to even let them out in fear I would never be able to get them back in.
I have failed to be a good owner. I’ve failed to continue training them out of fear that my temper my get out of hand again or I might do something wrong and lose any of the trust they have left in me. Heck, I’ve even failed to try to expand their diet beyond plain seed and spray millet.
And now that you know of the horrible owner I’ve been, I propose another one of my usually horrible and stupid plans.
I would like to move their cage and them into my room on a table by my bed. Moving them away from the other birds they are currently near.
‘Why that?’, you may ask. Well I’ve tried not to mention this at all in fear of being shamed upon here but all the other parakeets I own aren’t trained or anywhere close to it.
Not they’re parents, not the newer two Stormy and Thundery. None of the birds except Jesse. I didn’t even train him. That was my uncle and mom.
I’m not saying I want isolate them from any other birds because I love only them. I just want to get the hang of training in general before I do anything more rash than this.
I just feel the others don’t show them good habits, they move away as soon as I try to change their food and water and huddle in a corner out of fear.
I’m not saying I’m giving up the the ones in the group cage, but I would rather get the hang of training in general before I try to change their minds about me.
Considering how long they have been afraid of me and how may of them there are, I doubt it will be easy to change their minds.
As I said I am afraid if I try anything I will just make things worse. I just want to train R.R and Sherbert to begin with and then attempt to expand onward from there.
I know this is probably sounding like another one of my stupid ideas, which it probably is. But I genuinely want to learn how to be better and not make these horrible mistakes anymore.
I want to learn from these things and help the other budgies not fear me anymore.
I know I’m a horrible owner for doing all these things I’ve said, but please. I ask for forgiveness from the community for not doing any of this sooner. I’ve just been so afraid and confused.
Please, if anyone can or wants to help me with this. I thank you so so much.
And again, I’m sorry for letting all this happen and not trying to fix it sooner..