for those of you who dont know, i have 2 budgies named sunny and twinkie. i got them on the 28th of february from a friend who couldnt take care of them anymore, and despite them not being hands on birds, theyre cute and i actually really love them.
mum complains about murphy’s noise frequently and jokes about cooking him, as does my dad. she has never told me to get rid of him or even alluded to it. she‘s complained about the budgies often, and told me that her uncle bred budgies and how he never had them inside except for one and she “can’t believe how much noise they make”. she’s told me to get rid of them several times but wouldnt bring it up after and i thought she was joking. i cant tell when she’s joking or not, her tone isnt clear and we’ve had numerous fights over issues where ive thought she was joking and she wasnt and vice versa.
anyways, today i got home and she tells me ”willow i really cant do this anymore, im sorry but you have to rehome them.” she wasnt even angry... she just seemed at the end of her rope. dejected. she knows ive been trying hard to bond with them and help them get used to me but she gets sick a lot. she’s really sick. we don’t even know what it is and she gets bad migraines snd i feel absolutely terrible. her friend overheard us from the lounge room and said we could put them outside. but between the spiders, neighbourhood cats, and our dogs, i dont feel comfortable with that. i barely even take murphy’s cage outside even if i know im going to watch him the whole time. i dont trust my dogs at all. especially my younger one. and if we had them outside, we’d most definitely get mice and that would attract snakes from the reserve next door. we have small children over frequently and i couldnt live with myself if they got hurt. i dont know what else to do. im really angry at myself for not thinking of this scenario. we cant afford and aviary and mum and dad wouldnt keep up with its upkeep if my partner and i moved out. i dont know what to do. i cant just keep them inside, i can see how hard this is for mum and she’s really upset for even asking me. the other alternative is the laundry but almost everyday we clean the floor with HARSH chemicals bc our older dog pees in there at night and so thats not an option.
i talked to my partner about it and he thinks we should. we could find someone looking to add to their aviary or something. he thinks finding someone with more time on their hands than us would be good and that someone else could give them better care than we do. i agree with him but it doesnt stop me from feeling bad. i feel really lost on what to do.
mum complains about murphy’s noise frequently and jokes about cooking him, as does my dad. she has never told me to get rid of him or even alluded to it. she‘s complained about the budgies often, and told me that her uncle bred budgies and how he never had them inside except for one and she “can’t believe how much noise they make”. she’s told me to get rid of them several times but wouldnt bring it up after and i thought she was joking. i cant tell when she’s joking or not, her tone isnt clear and we’ve had numerous fights over issues where ive thought she was joking and she wasnt and vice versa.
anyways, today i got home and she tells me ”willow i really cant do this anymore, im sorry but you have to rehome them.” she wasnt even angry... she just seemed at the end of her rope. dejected. she knows ive been trying hard to bond with them and help them get used to me but she gets sick a lot. she’s really sick. we don’t even know what it is and she gets bad migraines snd i feel absolutely terrible. her friend overheard us from the lounge room and said we could put them outside. but between the spiders, neighbourhood cats, and our dogs, i dont feel comfortable with that. i barely even take murphy’s cage outside even if i know im going to watch him the whole time. i dont trust my dogs at all. especially my younger one. and if we had them outside, we’d most definitely get mice and that would attract snakes from the reserve next door. we have small children over frequently and i couldnt live with myself if they got hurt. i dont know what else to do. im really angry at myself for not thinking of this scenario. we cant afford and aviary and mum and dad wouldnt keep up with its upkeep if my partner and i moved out. i dont know what to do. i cant just keep them inside, i can see how hard this is for mum and she’s really upset for even asking me. the other alternative is the laundry but almost everyday we clean the floor with HARSH chemicals bc our older dog pees in there at night and so thats not an option.
i talked to my partner about it and he thinks we should. we could find someone looking to add to their aviary or something. he thinks finding someone with more time on their hands than us would be good and that someone else could give them better care than we do. i agree with him but it doesnt stop me from feeling bad. i feel really lost on what to do.