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Difficult decisions.

iamwhoiam

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So sorry. Painesgrey gave you some good advice about creating a written agreement.
 

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I am so sorry...:( I hope you are able to resolve this and bring them back home soon!!
 

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@Jaguar Please try to make some kind of written agreement with your ex-partner regarding the expectations moving forward. There is no such thing as "custody" of pets in the event of breakups and divorce, since they're considered property by the law. But if you write up a contract stating your expectation of return, you can always take him to court in the future if he refuses to return them to you. You will probably be expected to provide some financial support for their care, though.
Yes! We've already done it, and we had a witness (mutual friend) sign it. They're his just as much as they're mine, so he can keep them indefinitely, but they have to come back to me if he changes his mind. I know he'll take good care of them if he does decide to keep them. Thank you!
 

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I'm so sorry, I hope you can get them back in the Spring. Please come back and visit us once in a while!
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I'm sorry that you couldn't have a more favorable outcome for yourself, but at least you know that they will be well taken care of and loved while you can't have them.
 

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Sad to report that Puffy was rehomed during my absence. I was in no position to take him - my living situation is incredibly rocky and I am basically couch surfing at this point.

I got to visit the 'tiels for what will probably be the last time a few days ago. My ex is moving and taking them. They acted like I was never gone - it was sweet.

I miss them all a lot. I still feel tremendous guilt over the whole situation, but I am SO much happier away from that relationship. One day I might consider parrots again - but until then, farewell AA and thank you for all of the fun and great advice in the few short years I was here. :greet14:
 

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This is so heartbreaking, Many hugs to you:sadhug2:
 

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Oh, I’m so sorry that all that has happened. Please feel free to drop in every once in a while and tell us how you are doing!:sadhug2:
 

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So sorry. :bighug:
 

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Im so sorry to hear of your hard times. Have you looked in to bird boarding? Not sure where you are located, but we have a few places here in my area.I wish could help and watch them for you. Best of wishes to you and your babies
 

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I'm so sorry it happened this way... But at the same time, I applaud you and your strength - it isn't easy getting out of a bad relationship, and it must have taken a great deal of courage for you to do so. I know it must be heartbreaking to see your birds go to a different home, but we here all know that you doing so is an act of love, given your situation. I think you made the right choice, as hard as it is...

I hope you are able to get back on your feet soon. We'll miss you in the meantime. :sadhug:
 

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Sad to report that Puffy was rehomed during my absence. I was in no position to take him - my living situation is incredibly rocky and I am basically couch surfing at this point.

I got to visit the 'tiels for what will probably be the last time a few days ago. My ex is moving and taking them. They acted like I was never gone - it was sweet.

I miss them all a lot. I still feel tremendous guilt over the whole situation, but I am SO much happier away from that relationship. One day I might consider parrots again - but until then, farewell AA and thank you for all of the fun and great advice in the few short years I was here. :greet14:
Oh hon, my heart breaks for you. Im glad they will be cared for and loved. Maybe once things have settled a bit you could see them. Prayers your way. My heart is with you and your babies.
 

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Things never go smoothly in divorce. Just be on the cautious side.. you stay safe!! and keep your pets safe also!! Good luck
 

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It's been three years and not a day goes by that I don't miss my boys. Sometimes I swear I can hear them making their sweet little sounds in the distance. I've never had an animal leave such a mark on my heart and my life. I don't really know why I'm posting here... just needed to get my grief out a little somewhere.
 

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:sadhug2:I'm so sorry.
 

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Thanks everyone. I miss this group a lot too. I reached out to my ex... he was happy to provide me more frequent updates and pictures of them. He also reassured me that he would let me know first if for some reason he couldn't keep them any more, which I really appreciated. I live thousands of miles away in another country now, but I would do anything to get them here. They are still exactly the same... happy sweet boys. I'm glad they're still with him :heart:
 
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