I'm so sorry honey, but sadly we all have to deal with aging parents, and aging us..my mom is a borderline hoarder,,,I hate going over there, her place is dark, stinky, overwhelming magazines, clutter, the hundreds of straws in fast food cups on top of the fridge, the old rotten food I find in the fridge,,the tripping hazards ,,small bath mats everywhere! I tripped over a couple of them last time I was there, but dont dare touch them..she raises her voice and screams and yells over stupid petty crap..but then insists shes fine, soooo independent, I can only do so much, I'm alone .. she once told me,,when I die you better go through everything ,,I've hidden money all over the place..Oh dear..I dread that mess,,,not being mean..I try to get her to throw out at least a couple things every time visit... yikes! I hope I go before I get like that.. I dearly pray and hope you get someone to help or some support..