Advice please! African grey

[sonjatx]

Hi,
I had my African grey for 10 years now. He was super bonded with me. With me all day. Then when my husband got out the military we had to move. After the move my parrot (Merlin) at once stopped coming to me and totally ignored me. Everytime I come close to him he gets aggressive and trust to bite. He is out the cage during the day still and with me but he will not step up and even do all the cute things he did. Then when my son comes to visit he bonds with him at once. Like tries to gorge food up for him. He used to do that with me but I do not know what to do except to have patience. He acts like I abused him and I never never hit or yell or anything like that. Since the move 3 years already passed and still my Merlin is mad at me
What could I have done? My other Meyers parrot had no issues with the move still snuggly as ever. Merlin is breaking my heart.

 

[Shezbug]

Welcome to the Avenue

 

[scott199]

im very new to parrots, so only a guess, but if it was me i would start again from step one - gaining trust, go slow and maybe use target training to build the bond again.

it may very well be that hes turned his attention to your son and thats just a coincidence it happened around the time of the move.

Others with more knowledge will be alone soon but i would say, start again, pretend hes a new bird and start building the trust back.

 

[Kassiani]

and welcome! I don't own an African Grey, but sometimes birds just pick their favorite human. I'm getting ready to go visit my father with my two budgies. They may absolutely fall in love with my Dad or my sister, and I'll become chopped liver in their eyes. And that's OK. I still love them and will always take good care of them.

 

[sunnysmom]

Welcome to the forum!