Thank you! I think I broke my toe yesterday trying to explain what you just did to my bf. But it wasn't the same effect, because I DONT KNOW, just THINK I KNOW.
Toby and Eliza started in that cage. We ended up buying them a taller one because they only use the cage for bed or a few hours during the day. Then the babies used that cage, until they got a taller one.
I believe they call it a flight cage. Wide not tall. Without measuring I think it 2x3x2. I didn't think the cage or supplies could be an issue!
I've said we were probably so lucky because we started with adults and then got the babies. Toby and Eliza loved meeting as seeing the babies. I thought, I'm the best bird owner ever, everyone loves me and is happy, the more the merrier. Then we brought in the competition.
FYI, I only have confidence with my animal communication/ connection abilities. I feel and fix sick or sad animals. It is my life's purpose. I'm a rescuer. Not a breeder. I take dirty, sick, scared animals, make them whole, and find them a home. My bf just spent $4000 on his 12yr cat who escaped and was attacked by some wildlife..but he only sees the physical issues. He doesn't see the emotional trauma the cat now has. The cat has been to the vet (1002 times) and the vets say "he is fine". But he IS NOT the same cat...so I contacted psychics! I will do ANYTHING AND EVERYTHING for the souls that live with me. And thankfully my bf can afford it...cause I can't! That's the frustration. I'm "wasting his money" because of my feelings.
I am an empath so I completely run off "my feelings" and that's my proof. And my bf is the complete opposite...hence my broken toe from my frustration! Lmao if I can't make you understand my views on someone's mental health...I will just chase you away, for them. Or apparently break my toe..but I got my way for Ben, so adult tantrums work!
Before us, I believe he was treated well. But I say. "Breeder bird" because Google says these birds don't make good pet birds...but I am not entirely sure I believe that! I DONT WANT TO BE A BREEDER other than I see babies which is obviously NOT a good reason. My bf wants to breed billions of beautiful babies and sell them to the first one who offers him a whack of money. I ONLY "own" Eliza because of a previous tantrum. I fell for her instantly! I said I don't care if she ever lets me touch her. Ever! I love her and she cant ever leave. Ever. Apparently "breeder birds" only make babies or get rehomed..which I DONT AGREE WITH.
ELIZA is a HUGE brat and I say she would be viewed as a "bad bird". She isn't cuddly, she will bite you, and bite you again if you don't understand her the first time. She sidekicks her brother and takes food right out of his mouth, AND will chase him to steal his food from his mouth! She is bossy and not what I think MOST people would keep or enjoy. But I love her and if our friendship stays exactly how it is now her and I will still be good friends and be happy.
I eat food and am a mostly vegetarian.. So to live, I have to constantly be eating fruits and veggies..bird food! Lol That's like being a God to a conure, I think. lol, and I honestly love her shizzty attitude..but we are still working on it. Her and I were made for each other. So after a previous tantrum she now legally belongs to me. But I WAS stealing here regardless if I ever left. I'd definitely go to jail for her..but I think I could fight it. I only wanted 1/4 of them. I realize I am an adult and should not be so proud of my tantrums, but it secured Eliza's future so I do not regret it. Lol
The babies came because as soon as Toby and Eliza moved here they started trying to nest everywhere. Google said they would try to nest but wouldn't lay eggs if you didn't provide a box, but they were trying to find their own. Grabbing kleenex to bring up top the cupboards...They were purchased separately from I assume a pet store, but are siblings we were told. We never recieved any papers for them but the lady SAID they were siblings. They have different years on their bands...but I didn't want my babies with issues. So we continue saying they are siblings WITHOUT proof. And got the babies to split them up but Eliza wasn't interested. So then the next birds. I messed up. I asked for a submissive female, because of Eliza. And I said it didn't matter for the male, because Toby is so friendly...
We bought the last 4 birds from the same breeder. Ben had 2 homes before us. The initial breeder and then was sold to another breeder and then sold to me as a breeder bird. At his last home he wasn't held or out of the cage much other than to go into the aviary in the summer, she said. Judging by the babies and seeing the breeder with a few other babies, Ben should have been cared for properly. Her birds seem pretty stable and confident around people..she taught her babies to do the boomarang thing..and I thought I was gonna have to fight this chick throwing birds! She has been so helpful to me and I FEEL like she has the birds best interest in mind. I'm not sure about the first breeder..but runs a very public parrot site. I assume he is reputable based on how the others interact with him..but again there's my feelings .
Yesterday, I panicked again. Crisis mode...I know birds are sensitive but I immediate thought heart condition because even though it's definitely hasn't been ideal for him, I didn't think he should have went into shock. But once I settled myself emotionally, the second episode should have been explained as scared and not shock.
So late last night once Steve and I were able to talk I found out..Steve reached in and grabbed Ben. Steve really only gives Ginger attention. She's the prettiest and loves him. I do all the bird stuff. Ben panicked and bite 3 times as hard as he could. Steve didn't let go, and put him in his cage. Then the episode. So I do believe it was stress caused. BREAK MY HEART! I knew they were sensitive, but that's extreme!
So now I am here with my birds. I want Kate to fly if she wants. And she usually wants to. So everyone comes out of their cages during the day.
I guess now my issue is, how to settle Ben. If he was a " breeder bird" here, I still wouldnt be able to cage him all the time. And with 6, I'm not sure if that's possible..here.
My options are to continue trying to give him time outside the cage (with only Kate in the room). Make him a cage bird....but then I think another home would be happier for him...but NOW I think he is so shy and sensitive and I don't know if I would ever find someone I trusted enough to take him.
What are suggestings on how to get everyone happy? Is my idea of having the birds free unrealistic with multiple adults?
Kate has adjusted so well. Just not Ben. He is so sweet and curious, and I really feel like he is starting to trust ME. It shouldn't have been Steve to grab him, but he doesn't think they will teach themselves to step up. Of course I disagree. Lol. Kate took food from my hand. Improvement. I'm ok waiting forever. I'm certain Ben likes me and that will only grow. But I need him to feel safe and settle.
For whats it worth, it isn't chaotic here. The free birds want to see Ben. They will all go to his cage and whoever goes there tries fighting him through the cage. Ben's cage is beside the window, so he isn't sitting in the dark alone. I have wanted to bring him out with me in a budgie cage. I could carry him room to room but then I could protect him more. It's the harassment that I am saving him from...but now I definitely don't want to grab him to put him in a different cage.
What's the best option for Ben? He is loved already and I am certain with time I can absolutely help him come out of his shell a little, even if it's just to be ok with me. Animals are WAY better than people. No fake. They will bite and they tell you they will! No secrets. Lol I so appreciate real.
Once the birds wake up I will post our morning routine in a viedo and people can judge how the other birds are. I really feel like they are all happy, except for Ben. Normally, I think he is happy. He is talkative and curious. Always hangs upside down to talk with me! He's just a little character and he's curious of his new food giver. Lol
I am confident that "I" am good for Ben. I won't and don't push him. I do reach in everyday to be his friend. He let's the aura around my finger touch his and then runs. Lol But then he turns around, comes closer to my hand again, and starts chatting. I only do that once to him and then continue giving him his space. And I will only try to touch him if we have been chatting for a bit and I can tell he's settled. So never when the other birds are in the room.
Steve will not touch him anymore, but I still need $250 to legally own him. Lol or anther tantrum, but I can't walk on anymore broken toes...