I will say that that vet is a keeper.
Her concern for your bird not getting to stressed out is very important.
When they are really scared they get over heated and that is bad for their heart, that infact can stop. So when she continue watching him after exam she did the right thing.
And about showers.
You can't make him love it, but you can make him accept it.
Shower him twice a week. Always be calm. After every spray get him a treat. If he doesn't take treats give him after it's done. And tell him with a happy voice what a good boy he is.
Ignore him when he's not seems to like it.
It's not something bad you are doing to him it is the opposite.
The most important thing is that you are calm and not upset. He should see this as something natural and not a punishment or something you do to him to being mean.
If you continue doing this that way he will accept it. And knowing that he get something good after can even make him enjoy it.
Yea really is the best vet I've seen with any animal.
When he's unhappy like he gets with the shower or vets he wont take any food item even after he back in his cage safely he holds a grudge and wont taken anything. Give him about a hour before he will even take a treat from his bowl after get gets put up. I dd just get him some baby food tho to see if that will work so far its the only team he will take as a treat when he is scared. I've only used it once when a new toy make him jump out off his cage screaming so may not even work for a shower but a little baby food seem to be a good way to get him happy. I added his carrier to the breeding door on his cage so he can crawl into it when he wants that way he'll be used to it for sitting in in the shower.
As I told the vet I've had him with us on the couch for around 2 hours and he never calmed down or took a treat. About at that time he will bite at a toy a little but just seems to stay unhappy.
Carrier is going to be a treat cage for him from now hope that well kept him calmer. I was told I don't need to get him wet so if I can get him to see the carrier as a part of his cage for treats and then move it hopefully he stays calm. You it to take him to the shower and open the door so he can pick what he wants at that point. The old cat carrier i used scared him more then the water he would run out of it into the water just to get away from it. This carrier hes already started to eat and play in before the vets and didn't want to leave it to go back in his cage when we got home. I'm going to try going slow get him used to going in the carrier then the carrier stilling in the bathroom then see if hes up for some water after that.