(((hugs))) Crystal.
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I so know what you mean. In my own case, I have a 21 yr old SD that lives with us. She is genius level intelligent, was at one of the best colleges in the country until she had a mental break. She is now home. I keep rescuing animals that she brings in and hides from me in her room. Most recent was a hamster that she had living in the dark on the floor of her closet for 3 weeks.
Turns out, she had gotten it last year in college, gave it to someone else, then they gave it back to her last month. When I found it living in a closed closet I freaked out!!!
I am trying to rehome it but I asked her, Why does he not even have a wheel or anything? He response? "I can't afford it" (She works 30 hours a week at 8.50/hour). I made her go buy one yesterday and that little hamster ran and ran for hours. Poor baby.
She has an african frog who's tank is covered in a film of hairspray and scum. I woke her up out of bed this morning and told her that it better be clean before I get home.
*sigh* Why why why do people not care? And how did this person living in MY house turn out this way??