Hello, I'm new here at Avian Avenue. My name is Nicole and I recently brought home a new female Plum Headed Parakeet that my kids have named Pickles. She's lovely and I'm thrilled with her, but have a few questions about interacting with her in this first week home. To give you a little background info, this is our second bird. We sadly lost our Green Cheek Conure a few months ago. He was a wonderful little fellow, and my daughter was especially attached to him (the new bird was actually a gift for her upcoming birthday) While I loved him, and still miss him, he did drive me ABSOLUTELY CRAZY!! He was our first bird, and we did everything wrong with him from the start which resulted in a bird who screamed all day for attention (like seriously, ALL. DAY.) and refused to play on his own. It caused serious issues in the family because my husband couldn't take the noise (how in the world could something that small could be that loud! ) I know now that I caused most of the issues from the start. I let him be with me constantly from day one. He was naturally a "People Bird" and I let him ride around on my shoulder wherever I went. Plus, we got him in the summer when my kids were home from school. They were 5 and 8 and absolutely fascinated with him. So of course they were at his cage of messing with him all the time too. Since I work from home, I would be here with him all day and therefore he bonded strongly with me, and became angry when my husband was around - also not ideal. All that to say, I'm trying to be much more deliberate with how we handle this first week home. I am coming at this with more info, but would still greatly appreciate some advice. I chose this lovely lady in particular because they are more independent. (The store also had a sweet cinnamon conure that I loved, but I was afraid to travel down that road again) She came home two days ago. I have given her more space and alone time and tried to be more cautious about over doing it with holding her. She is not as naturally inclined to want to be with people, but she's in no way aggressive. She will step up easily, but is more timid and scares fairly easily. So here's my question(s) for you. 1. How much time should I let her spend with me? Like out and about with me? Like I said, she's not afraid, but also not super excited about any of us. Would she benefit from more time being handled or less? 2. I obviously want her to bond with me, but I don't want a situation where she is so bonded that she gets mad when other members of the family are around. I've been trying to be a little more distant during the day, and let my daughter in particular be the one to give her treats, and spend time talking to her from outside the cage. (My daughter LOVES her and would happily spend hours talking and singing to her) Is this the right approach? Thank you in advance for any suggestions. I know that was a long post, but I really want to get off to a better start this time.