Need to get this off my chest

[KatelynDeanne]

Guys, I have something to say. So, Chloe, was rehomed a couple weeks ago. No, that is not why my name isnt "Chloes Momma" anymore, it really did make me feel like an old lady. LOL Basically guys, it got VERY bad with her. I couldnt get near the cage without her trying to eat me. I wanted to be patient, but my husband was getting very upset with the situation. She constantly wanted him. He isnt much of a bird person and just wanted me happy. He would not take care of her and clean after her etc, and kept telling me to do it. Every night I would cry and annoy my husband with helping take care of her. He just wouldnt. So , given that, my husband decided to rehome her. Her new momma is actually on here but not very active. She knows everything as well. My husband then surprised me with a new grey that is also 9 years old that has been more socialized and I have had her a week. She is the one in my avatar and her name is Lucy. She also, is still trying to settle in and I do not know how she will do . But so far, shes WAY nicer than Chloe was to me, and she knows how to fly. I like the fact that she is not clipped. She will not step up completely every time but about every 5th time or so she steps up. I have done things differently with her than I did with Chloe thus far. Lucy talks A LOT and already says my name. She is the one I took to the vet friday. She was fed mostly protein but the vet says that she is very healthy considering what she was eating (very little seeds, etc.) When I went to visit her, she stepped up to me. Thats when I knew. I was very upset that my husband made me rehome Chloe. I have checked up on her several times and she is now with a good family. But guess what? She has bonded with the man in that family too and is aggresive to the main care taker (woman) . I did tell the new owner about it and she is willing to work with her. Guys, I just want to avoid any of you being angry toward me about this situation if you are, and I want to be honest. It was getting bad in the house with me being upset and my husband and I bickering over it a lot and so far things are better with Lucy as shes settling in. I want to be able to share with all of you my happieness and Lucys progress and not have to refer to her as "my bird" any more. (some of you may have noticed) and I figure it was best to tell yall now than later. Lucy desereves better than that. She is a very good little girl and I have spoiled her rotten, just as I did Chloe. I am sad it had to be this way but I am only allowed to have one bird for now and my husband wasnt having it. We have been through a lot of stress lately with the move, and my husband seperating from the airforce and I have a very ill grandpa and its my last grandpa. I also have been through 3 major surgeries recently, and had to quit my job for now. (personal training) . I live 8 hours from my family and I worked up the courage to get a new bird after 6 years of losing my cockatoo. This is why its important that things work out in our home. I know Lucy isnt 100 percent settled in yet, and she may very well pick my husband but that is ok. I just cant have her attacking me. SO far it has been a lot different with this one!

 

[metalstitcher]

I hope things will stay in a good place for you and your husband. I know there have been some members who have had to rehome for some of the same reason. No one is going to judge you for doing everything you could.

 

[KatelynDeanne]

I hope things will stay in a good place for you and your husband. I know there have been some members who have had to rehome for some of the same reason. No one is going to judge you for doing everything you could.

Thank you so much! I do too! So far shes doing great. I completely now understand how a bird can bond to one person. Yes, I was upset but thats not the main reason we had to rehome her. It was because of the attacking and my husband just wouldnt do all the things he needed to do to care for her. It was just a difficult situation. I believe now, her new family will work out better. She just didnt like women and thats ok! Thank you for not judging me. Thats what I hope for from everyone here. This has been a hard situation and even harder to tell everyone. I just want to talk about Lucys progress now and let her become part of the avian avenue family!

 

[finchly]

Some people rehome/rehome/rehome, swapping birds around like cars or wallpaper. I can’t speak for everyone but I don’t like that kind of treatment. People don’t realize how stressful it is on birds.

However I relate to what you are saying. I had a bird that attacked me. He would beg to come out of his cage then launch himself at me. When he bit, he’d hang on and it took both me and hubby to get him off. He often went for the feet (I live in Florida, I always wear sandals). He literally chased me around the kitchen island. I’m the one who does the bird care. So, I totally get this. There’s a point where you can’t ‘work with’ the bird because they’re not going to work with you.

 

[Brittany0208]

No judgement here. You tried, and did what was best for Chloe. I'm glad you are happier with Lucy and I look forward to hearing about how you two grow together.
Don't feel guilty about Chloe, sometimes it just doesn't work out. Thank you for opening up. We are here for you.

 

[KatelynDeanne]

Some people rehome/rehome/rehome, swapping birds around like cars or wallpaper. I can’t speak for everyone but I don’t like that kind of treatment. People don’t realize how stressful it is on birds.



However I relate to what you are saying. I had a bird that attacked me. He would beg to come out of his cage then launch himself at me. When he bit, he’d hang on and it took both me and hubby to get him off. He often went for the feet (I live in Florida, I always wear sandals). He literally chased me around the kitchen island. I’m the one who does the bird care. So, I totally get this. There’s a point where you can’t ‘work with’ the bird because they’re not going to work with you.

Thank you for understanding! Yes I also dont agree with that treatment when nothing is wrong with the bird. But yes in my situation, it had to be done. Sounds like your bird you had and chloe would have gotten along just fine. Lol!

 

[KatelynDeanne]

No judgement here. You tried, and did what was best for Chloe. I'm glad you are happier with Lucy and I look forward to hearing about how you two grow together.
Don't feel guilty about Chloe, sometimes it just doesn't work out. Thank you for opening up. We are here for you.

Thank you! I will post about Lucy today. Cant wait for u all to meet her! Shes so funny!!

 

[Mizzely]

Sometimes you just know that it's not going to work out. I lived with an aggressive bird for years and suffered through it and it was bad for both of us. It's easy for people to judge when they aren't in your shoes, but many of us can relate Can't wait to meet Lucy!

 

[BertAllen]

Life certainly sucks sometimes but you must do what is right for you and your husband. Good Luck with Lucy.
Let's see some pictures of her.

 

[Laurul Feather Cat]

I was left two Amazon parrots by a friend in her will. Both Precie and Pedro were in their mid 20s. Precie was a wonderful pet. Chatty, interactive and wonderful. Nips now and then when she got short tempered with me, but no bites.

Pedro, however, was physically aggressive and very short tempered. He had been a wild caught, under socialized bird who had been passed around from family to family until my friend bought him as a mate for Precie. She felt being experienced Amazon owners, she and her daughter could turn him around. It did work pretty much; Pedro bonded with the daughter. Twelve years later, the owner died, the daughter was unable to keep the parrots due to medical problems and I inherited them. No problem for Precie, but Pedro's world crashed.

He became physically aggressive to the max. If I had his cage door open and I walked past the cage or turned my back to hum, he attacked, jumping on me, biting me, flogging me with his wings and one time, biting me on my face right below my eye and refusing to let go.

But I didn't give up on Pedro until after I had my back surgery and he started to knock me off my feet every day. I consulted a behavioral specialist who recommended I try to rehome Pedro. He had no respect for me and never would. I could keep him as a cagebound pet or rehome. No other choices. Luckily, a friend very experienced with Amazons took them and they have a great life with her.

So, I know where you are coming from, Katelyn. I understand completely. I feel like having to rehome the Amazons is the single largest failure of my life as a bird keeper, but my physical condition then and Pedro's aggression made it the best thing to do for the parrots and me. But it was one of the most difficult things I ever have had to do.

 

[rockoko]

I love your avatar with Lucy, all my best wishes!

 

[finchly]

It's easy for people to judge when they aren't in your shoes, but many of us can relate Can't wait to meet Lucy!

Isn't that the truth!

I feel like having to rehome the Amazons is the single largest failure of my life as a bird keeper, but my physical condition then and Pedro's aggression made it the best thing to do for the parrots and me. But it was one of the most difficult things I ever have had to do.

Lois, you didn't fail. You did what was best. It sounds like you really went the extra mile, too! I felt the same way, and so did Mizzely, but we shouldn't, you know? Birds have personalities and sometimes...we are going to clash.

 

[Laurul Feather Cat]

Thank you, Tanya. I really appreciate your input. I miss Precie every day, but not Pedro!

 

[KatelynDeanne]

Sometimes you just know that it's not going to work out. I lived with an aggressive bird for years and suffered through it and it was bad for both of us. It's easy for people to judge when they aren't in your shoes, but many of us can relate Can't wait to meet Lucy!

Thank You Mizzely!!

 

[KatelynDeanne]

Life certainly sucks sometimes but you must do what is right for you and your husband. Good Luck with Lucy.
Let's see some pictures of her.

Yes that is true!! I will keep yall updated on her progress ! Will post pics of her soon! Thank You!

 

[KatelynDeanne]

I was left two Amazon parrots by a friend in her will. Both Precie and Pedro were in their mid 20s. Precie was a wonderful pet. Chatty, interactive and wonderful. Nips now and then when she got short tempered with me, but no bites.

Pedro, however, was physically aggressive and very short tempered. He had been a wild caught, under socialized bird who had been passed around from family to family until my friend bought him as a mate for Precie. She felt being experienced Amazon owners, she and her daughter could turn him around. It did work pretty much; Pedro bonded with the daughter. Twelve years later, the owner died, the daughter was unable to keep the parrots due to medical problems and I inherited them. No problem for Precie, but Pedro's world crashed.

He became physically aggressive to the max. If I had his cage door open and I walked past the cage or turned my back to hum, he attacked, jumping on me, biting me, flogging me with his wings and one time, biting me on my face right below my eye and refusing to let go.

But I didn't give up on Pedro until after I had my back surgery and he started to knock me off my feet every day. I consulted a behavioral specialist who recommended I try to rehome Pedro. He had no respect for me and never would. I could keep him as a cagebound pet or rehome. No other choices. Luckily, a friend very experienced with Amazons took them and they have a great life with her.

So, I know where you are coming from, Katelyn. I understand completely. I feel like having to rehome the Amazons is the single largest failure of my life as a bird keeper, but my physical condition then and Pedro's aggression made it the best thing to do for the parrots and me. But it was one of the most difficult things I ever have had to do.

Aww, you did everything you could!! Im sure your a wonderful birdkeeper!! Thats good that they are having a good life with the new owner as well See it all worked out! It was difficult for me too but just had to be done before things got worse if I wanted to keep my fingers by caring for her. Thank you for the support on this

 

[KatelynDeanne]

I love your avatar with Lucy, all my best wishes!

Thank you so much!! Ill keep yall posted with her progress! I may start a daily Lucy update!

 

[KatelynDeanne]

First moment meeting Lucy Dinner!! Give me your eggs mom! Why so many?

So far with Lucy, things are great. She comes to me occasionally, but mostly just perches herself somewhere and talks all day! Every now and then I can get her to step up but mostly transport her around with a t perch! Shes doing well and cant wait to see our friendship grow! Shes a mess!

 

[KatelynDeanne]

This is when she actually does step up you can say "give me a kiss" and she will

 

[rockoko]

love the first meeting picture!!!! So special! Lucy looks like a doll, I hope all goes well!