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So here's the dilemma going on: my 29-year-old sister is completely insensitive toward Java. It all started about 3 months ago when he started to settle in and he picked his chosen person, which is me. He no longer allows my sister to handle him and screams at her when she gets too close, even going to the point of climbing off my lap to attack her shirt. Ever since he has shunned the remainder of the household, my sister has written him off completely, calling him things like a**hole and being indifferent if she scares him or makes him uncomfortable, saying things like he needs to get over it. I tell her repeatedly that he has never had positive human contact and that he needs time to get used to everything but she waves it off. I tell her that he knows she doesn't like him but she doesn' care, never considering his existence when she makes sudden movements or loud noises. My biggest concern is how my sister's attitude will effect him since she doesn't seem to care for him like she did in the beginning. I think it may be effecting him emotionally because once she leaves, Java seems less excited about his toys and even nips me. Poor guy, not sure what I can do to reassure him that I will never treat him poorly. He seems quieter after the fact, and I'm willing to bet she's stressed him out with her insensitive attitude, which she and I have exchanged words over. I try to remain calm, but my sister is the kind of person that doesn't understand reason, you have to get in her face and tell her off or she won't take anything seriously. This is my little rant because I'll be d*mned if she treats Java like he's insignificant!