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Erikalynnha

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This is my first time posting.

I lost the love of my life today. Huginn was my first bird. He was a Green Cheek Conure I have had for almost 5 years. He was my lil sour patch kid.

I notice alittle bit of wheezing on Monday night. Called around Tuesday morning and made a appt with the first vet that had any openings, a mistake I will have to live with forever. At first she couldn't find anything wrong with him. She acted scared to be near him, I had to make her get close to his face to hear his breathing noise. She prescribed Baytril. I believe the doctor aspirated my baby. She jam a syringe down his thoart and press the plunger down fast. Giggle when he choke and cough the medicine up and told me when I give him medicine at home to do it more slowy. He vomited on the way home.

I called and made a appt at another avain vet when I got home for a second opinion. He was breathing alittle heavier after leaving the first vet and then I notice tail bobbing. The Avain Vet was booked but said they could squeeze me in today 3/22 in the morning.

By bed time last night his breathing was worse. I called are local emergency vets but no one had a avain specialist on staff. He slept on the bottom of his cage that night. We got him to the second vet but by then I knew my baby was not gonna make it. The doctor place him in a oxygen tank but without he could not breath on his own. She had offer other options for treatment, non that I can even remember right now, but said his chances where low. I did not want to stress him out any longer, I let my baby go.

The second vet said it could have been a number of things that cause him to be sick like that but said it sounded like Huginn aspirated on the medicine the doctor gave him. Huginn was normal on Monday and Tuesday morning other then a slight breathing sound he was making, playing and eating fine. I know birds hid illnesses sometimes until its to late. I am just so heartbroken after losing him I feel like I failed him.

I have a Blacked Capped Conure who loved Huginn and I worried he will become depressed. I had him taken to the vet today for bloodwork and a fecal just incase. Haven't gotten results but the Doctor said he is super healthy looking.

I just needed to write this down my minds a mess.
 

Milestone

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I'm so sorry for your loss. I really feel for your situation. It's also easy to feel like it's your fault or you failed him, but don't, you tried your best. I don't like the sound of the first vet, defiantly not good.

It's going to hurt for awhile but you'll recover. :bluhug:
 
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WendyN

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I am very sorry for your loss.
:sorrow:
 

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I am so sorry for your loss.
 

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So sorry for your loss.
 

Jaguar

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Sorry you had to go through that. :(

I would heavily consider a necropsy if you think negligence or malpractice had a factor in his death. It might give you some answers... or leave you with more questions....
 

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I'm SO sad for you. Please don't blame yourself - you acted out of love for Huginn and that same love gave him 5 happy years, don't forget that. He was clearly a well-loved and cared for bird. I hope your other little bird is ok - you will have to keep each other's spirits up.

You will feel better in time and will be able to remember the good times you had with Huginn.
 

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So many of us that suffer a bird loss do blame ourselves. Please know you are not to blame one bit. You had many years of happiness with this bird. :grouphug3:
 

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So sorry for your loss.
 

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I'm so sorry for your loss. I lost my heart bird about 8 months ago. So I understand your pain. It does get easier with time. Missing them never goes away but it becomes tolerable. Give your other conure lots of extra love and attention. Like people, he will need to grieve too. :sorrow:
 

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I am very sorry for your loss.
 

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I am so very sorry
 

Donna turner

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I feel so bad for you. It's always sooo hard to loose a loved one , but don't blame yourself. You did the best you could. Some things you just can't know (the vet) till something goes wrong. So sorry for your lose
 

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So sorry for your loss :sorrow:
 

Greencheek Lee

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So sorry for your loss, I understand how you feel. It is awful and nothing can make you feel better. I talked a lot to mine after he was gone, I like to think he could hear me and it helped get things off my chest, and still tell him he was loved every day.

When that happened to me I was worried my one left behind would be too lonely as well. Looking back I think he would've liked to be a single bird and get all the attention. If you do get a friend for your remaining bird I suggest one around the same age, especially if he's a mellow bird.
 
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