Hey guys!
If you have read my other forums from the past, a few months ago now, I had noticed that my cockatiel Boomer had 'chosen' my boyfriend as his person. In the beginning he was still happy to interact with me, but his special bond was with my partner. With me, Boomer was more adventurous, less interested in me and more interested in exploring. When my partner got home, he'd start singing my partners favourite football teams song for him, fly to him and press himself against his neck to deliver his serenade. It was the most gorgeous display!
Now however we're having a few problems. My partner works full time and leaves early in the morning, and Boomer calls for him hours after he leaves. He no longer wants to come out for me, and will fly around in distress or sit in a quiet area singing for my partner to come for him, hissing at me. He doesnt want to explore anymore.
When my partner gets home in the evening, he'll become anxious trying to catch his attention. He wants to be the first person greeted when he walks in the door, and he absolutely hates being in his cage at all times. He calls desperately, constantly.
Its really unfair, but my partner does not return Boomers affections.
I am more than happy for my boyfriend to be Boomers person, I just want him to be happy and healthy and feel loved.
But suddenly out of the blue my boyfriend has started saying he wasn't sure about having a bird to begin with, which is news to me. His overwhelmed by Boomers needs, and his hinting that Boomer would be better off being separated from him entirely while his still young. I never would rehome Boomer, but my boyfriend wants to give him to his mother who has other cockatiels.
So I'm wondering how I can fix this. I understand my boyfriend is being a total butt, when i moved in I inherited his two very big mastiff dogs and never complain about them sleeping in our beds, getting hair all through the house. I consider them my own and love them. So why cant he do the same for Boomer?
As annoyed as I am at the situation, I really want to know what I can do for Boomer. The person his chosen doesn't want to be that person, and I hate seeing him stressed. As I said before, I want him to be happy, healthy and feel loved. I understand i cant force him to bond with me, that's not what I'm after, but is there ways I can encourage more independence and help him be more separate from my partner? He was so friendly with humans before, I'm just not sure he'd enjoy being in an aviary at all.
If you have read my other forums from the past, a few months ago now, I had noticed that my cockatiel Boomer had 'chosen' my boyfriend as his person. In the beginning he was still happy to interact with me, but his special bond was with my partner. With me, Boomer was more adventurous, less interested in me and more interested in exploring. When my partner got home, he'd start singing my partners favourite football teams song for him, fly to him and press himself against his neck to deliver his serenade. It was the most gorgeous display!
Now however we're having a few problems. My partner works full time and leaves early in the morning, and Boomer calls for him hours after he leaves. He no longer wants to come out for me, and will fly around in distress or sit in a quiet area singing for my partner to come for him, hissing at me. He doesnt want to explore anymore.
When my partner gets home in the evening, he'll become anxious trying to catch his attention. He wants to be the first person greeted when he walks in the door, and he absolutely hates being in his cage at all times. He calls desperately, constantly.
Its really unfair, but my partner does not return Boomers affections.
I am more than happy for my boyfriend to be Boomers person, I just want him to be happy and healthy and feel loved.
But suddenly out of the blue my boyfriend has started saying he wasn't sure about having a bird to begin with, which is news to me. His overwhelmed by Boomers needs, and his hinting that Boomer would be better off being separated from him entirely while his still young. I never would rehome Boomer, but my boyfriend wants to give him to his mother who has other cockatiels.
So I'm wondering how I can fix this. I understand my boyfriend is being a total butt, when i moved in I inherited his two very big mastiff dogs and never complain about them sleeping in our beds, getting hair all through the house. I consider them my own and love them. So why cant he do the same for Boomer?
As annoyed as I am at the situation, I really want to know what I can do for Boomer. The person his chosen doesn't want to be that person, and I hate seeing him stressed. As I said before, I want him to be happy, healthy and feel loved. I understand i cant force him to bond with me, that's not what I'm after, but is there ways I can encourage more independence and help him be more separate from my partner? He was so friendly with humans before, I'm just not sure he'd enjoy being in an aviary at all.